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Am I wrong here ?

Many Guys think just because I respond to them ,means I’m lo-fi flirting whereas the fact is its just my nature.I can’t be rude upfront and so I come across someone very easy approachable but after a few days into the conversation,they discover I am not a flirt and then they become angry and start throwing tantrums .🙂‍↔️😞😔

Like ,how should an ideal response be like ?no response ?
LilPrincess · 41-45, F
I completely get that. I don't flirt, i just like to joke around. Some go beyond tantrums sometimes. I have dealt with it here and on FB. A friend of mine for 5 years decided to take it a step further and when I said sorry buddy I am just around to be your friend he went 50 shades of psycho...

Still isn't gonna stop me from being me
Matt85 · 36-40, M
Yes that can happen.
Kazuya69 · 31-35, M
I mean just not being rude, and being very easy to approach or kind in no way translates to flirting, realistically most guy do know this which tells me they are simply trying to take advantage of your more easy going nature. Soon as their attempts fail they get angry because those type of people are like that to begin with. It's never rude to set boundaries with someone upfront and if this keeps happening maybe you should see what all these guys have in common and change the type of person you talk to. I do agree with everyone else that this is largely a "them" problem and seriously sounds like they are extremely immature people, however to be fair without knowing what you do that comes off as low-ki flirting I can't be fair to say for 100%. Once you do make your intentions clear, that should be respected and if anyone is throwing a tantrum like that, they truly do have a personal issue that you'd be better off not involved with in anyway.
Mmiker · 46-50, M
Sounds like you are nice but not here to flirt. Many guys take politeness as flirting. Just remind them that you’re not here for “that.” When you stick to that boundary they see it and back off.
Just be yourself, if some people can't handle honest friendship then it's a reflection of them not you.
AngSmith · 51-55, F
If they get angry, block and move on. That's a "them" issue.
They really need to get over themselves
Dex1981 · 41-45, M
The thing is, we live in such an isolating and alienating society that any little friendliness can be mistaken for romantic interest.

I would just try to be aware of that and make it clear you're just looking to chat at the beginning instead of waiting a few days.
KingofBones1 · 46-50, M
That's because a lot of people expect too much personally in my life I just assume the opposite that's why I never make the first move keeps me out of trouble keeps other people from getting upset just better all the way around
funfan · 46-50, M
Lotsa great comments so far. 👏 Hmmm.... all I can add is that from using text-based communication for seemingly forever, almost anything you write can often be easily misunderstood/misconstrued. That may (or may not) be the case with some of those guys.
DDonde · 31-35, M
No, that's their problem.
Workerbee · 31-35, M
You aren’t wrong, maybe a majority of the convos those men had with women the women were VERY flirtatious so they’re used to it

 
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