Am doing some social work that I do not want to brag about. Just a humble something to make some difference to some people. Hopefully it will help them support others some day.
@WandererTony I've been looking for you on the comment boards! You recommended that I buy Tulsi extract drops about 3 weeks ago. I bought them, and they WORK!!! My sinuses and chest congestion are clear for the first time in about 2 years. Thank you SO much for telling me about it!
@WandererTony You know even the smallest gestures can make someone’s day. Something said to cheer them up and make them feel that they are valuable to others in this world. Even a smile can do that with the right people.
@4meAndyou it’s great to know that it worked for you. Actually I had very similar symptoms as yours so I knew it might work for you too. Lucky that you tried it. Most would think Ayurveda his rubbish without allopathic evidence. 😊
@cherokeepatti well whatever I’ve been doing is more than just smile 😊. But yes, I do agree with you. The smallest gesture can help make somebody’s day and when it is sustained, can make their life as well. Most people expect gratitude in return and discontinue the good work without it. But true benevolence is without expectation and it brings a feeling of goodness and glow from within. 🤗
@WandererTony It energizes me when I know I have done something to make someone’s day. It really does, it is self-feeding and it raises my spirits greatly. I made the mistake of getting back with my narcissistic sister in 2013 and helped her nearly every day for about a year and a half. She turned on me badly when I didn’t want to drive her to the gambling casino down the interstate highway. She made up an elaborate story about her son encouraging her to go play and he had given her money to get started. I didn’t believe a word and she was on disability and no car to drive. I knew her well enough that when she lost that money probably within 30 minutes tears and sad stories of not having enough money would start flowing from her to make me feel guilty for taking her so I’d replace the money. She gas lit me badly, saying I needed to see her shrink and she wrote down a medication that she had taken and said I needed to take that. She had a notebook and went down the list of all the reasons I was “Weird”. I played along and told her I knew that I was weird and I didn’t have a problem with it. She grit her teeth and continued down the list 😂. I knew her days of me helping her were numbered. I should have used my energy to help others with small temporary things like others do…taking them to pick up their food donations or whatever. It would have been much more fulfilling.
@cherokeepatti thanks for sharing the elaborate details. I really feel that you need to help her too. Don’t just dump her. Try to reason with her. Maybe you can coerce her to change her ways. I know you have the patience and the goodness within you 🤗
@WandererTony I have dumped her. She is dangerous to others who get deeply involved with her. Her own children stopped coming around or communicating with her over a year ago and she has just now started building up their trust. The one that lives in town has let her visit her grandchildren and even lets them stay overnight sometimes now. The other daughter has brought her grandchildren to visit on Christmas Day with gifts. They were protecting their children in part by not coming around. She was posting a lot of photos with stories and had been warned not to do it again. She continued on. Was posting a lot of bull crap too. She moved to another apartment with other seniors and has made friends and participates in social activities with them. Some of them take turns inviting her to places and gives her rides. So she doesn’t become dependent on any one person. That is what is best. She has gas lit me too much and posted negative false stories about me for me to ever trust her again. And believe me she can be dangerous in other ways, legally making up stories. Had one relative arrested and posted bond to stay out of jail and when the hearing came up she told the judge she wanted to drop charges….she knew she was in the wrong. I have had one adrenal gland removed and need to let the other one rest as much as possible. I felt my energy going down when I was around her and knew my adrenals were overburdened in 2014 and had to stop for my own health.
@cherokeepatti thats muchbworse than i thought. You did the right thing. Sometimes you have to be harsh to correct a person. Sad that you had to go through so much. Take care of yourself.
@WandererTony My narc detector is on and I have learned to stay away from all of them setting strong boundaries and enforcing those boundaries when necessary. Am raising a boy and his mother is one. Was dealing with both of them. When I had my first meltdown due to stress, came to tears in private. Knew I had to do something. I am raising that boy but the mother will never be allowed in this home ever again. At that time I was dealing with my sister and then the mother of the boy got out of rehab and stayed here too weeks, her father was here but there were times I had to be alone with her when he went to his business and after I came home with her for a few hours. She could get under my skin in a heartbeat. Was nice for a couple of days and then tried to start manipulating me to buy her things and talking about living here. No way, Jose, was that going to happen. I would have left and went somewhere else at that point.
@WandererTony I don't discount ANYTHING if someone tells me it works!!! I like the taste of it, too. Sort of like menthol! But very, very mild in a glass of water.
@4meAndyou yes I too like the taste, but I didn’t tell you that because I wasn’t sure whether you would like it as well. There is a feeling of purity in the taste. Provided you don’t burp after breakfast 😃
@WandererTony I have Tulsi tea bags because they help for adrenals and stress. I don’t mind the taste but had no idea they make drops with Tulsi, what is the brand and what is the price if you don’t mind saying.
@WandererTony I like most of what I’ve used as far as Indian medicine goes. I hear that the herbal practitioners there can cure vitiligo and no doctor here can. Also cure it in China with herbs. Thanks a lot, I’ll see if I can order that brand there.
@cherokeepatti that’s great. But you need five drops every morning in a cup of water. And maybe a repeat at night so 10 drops per day. That means minimum 10 days for one ml. So 30 ML bottle should last 10 months. I am just 3 months into this and I’m still perhaps midway on my first bottle so I think it’ll be even cheaper than you think. 😊
