Women get attention and have to sift through a lot of different options.
Men dont sift. They take what their value is capable of actively finding. The exception is the top 10% of men whom 80% of women desire and are all competing for.
This is show clearly on dating apps. Women swipe right on 1% of men, men swipe right on 50% of women. AKA women are picky by nature. And they should be, because sex can be dangerous to women, so they want the best they can get, naturally.
Your perspective is unfortunately the way many women feel these days. Its a function of the times, with women doing better than men in education and career.
Female sexual market value stems from the ability to have babies. Since 1 woman = 1 baby per 9 months, and 1 man = >1 baby, this means women have innate value and are highly desired. This is conveyed through health and beauty and youth. AKA ability to have babies.
Men are not so, as the disposable sex. Thats why the male role was typically to die in war or on the job or protecting women and children--better they die to preserve human popultion growth potential.
So, if men are worthless by default, how did they accrue value before? Occupation and accomplishment. Social status and power. Because women like those things.
Now that women have a lot of their own social power or economic power, that means male value drops substantially.
So why should you compromise while men arent told to? Because female standards are currently highly inflated, and most will only be happy with a man who is in the top 10% of all men. Doing the math, most women are not satisfied with the available men, because there aren't enough to go around.
Women are hypergamous, which means they date across and up heirarchies. That means women want men who are as good as them or preferably better. Men are not this way, they pretty much take whatever they can get. As shown on Tinder, with men showing they find most women attractive, and women showing they only want the best men available. Supply cannot meet demand for the top men, so they tend to use and abuse women, which also makes women feel all men want is sex. No, they just are only seeing the top men and are ignoring 80%-90% of men who want something real. These men have all the options, so they're either bedding a lot of women or are settling down with the highest quality women.
Also since women can have visibility on the best men in the world, it makes it virtually impossible to compare, as an average or even above average man.
You should care about getting a high quality man. But that should be padded with the idea that there are men "at your level" that arent necessarily Leonardo DeCaprio or a king or a prince or independently wealthy.
I used to think women should drop their standards. Because the standards are typically astoundingly high. However, i think now the emphasis should be on improving men to where women will be satisfied with them. Unfortuntely, the current state makes most women unhappy and desiring to be alone rather than dropping their standards, and it makes most men unhappy and unable to find a woman, dulling themselves with video games and porn.
My recommendation would be to date in person. You wont lower your standards, you will just give men the opportunity to prove they have value to you outside of being top 10% attractive or wealthy or powerful, which is all we can really display, online. Humor, connection, companionship, vibes, those can show you that there are men out there who are worthy of you. But you wont see those on an app or online.
Its obviously up to you, but you will probably be happier dating in person and finding a decent guy to create a life with, rather than being alone or waiting for a top 10% guy who can have any woman he wants somehow dropping everything to be with you.
