Why is it considered cool for girls to say something along the lines of "giving a guy a chance" in the context of relationships?

I mean if we're talking about hookups it might make sense but otherwise it's basically saying

1- You find it cool to start a relationship with someone you don't like just as if you're "doing them a favour" and breaking their heart

2- You're also so proud of yourself for being so manipulative and careless of his feelings. You're manipulative to the point that you view yourself as someone kind giving someone more than what they deserve.

3- You consider that a relationship is the man's chance to prove his worth. While your only role in a relationship is to evaluate his worth.

Edit: If you're uncertain, you're "giving it or us a chance" and that's very different than saying "giving him a chance"

I mean, if we're friends and you use this expression, please don't take this as if I'm talking about you, but I just can't help but see it this way.

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bijouxbroussard · F

It’s funny, I don’t generally use that term, but I understand the context. It’s normal to like someone but not be certain if the potential exists for something longterm and permanent. "Giving him/her a chance" might simply mean being willing to see where things go.

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@bijouxbroussard please see the update

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User You see it as different. But that [b]is[/b] how some people mean it. It comes down to semantics at that point.

SW-User

@bijouxbroussard Did you ever hear a man say "I gave her a chance" tho?

bijouxbroussard · F

@SW-User Absolutely. But admittedly, it was in situations where the woman did the pursuing, so that might be the dynamic.

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@bijouxbroussard That's a good point 🤔