Why is it considered cool for girls to say something along the lines of "giving a guy a chance" in the context of relationships?

I mean if we're talking about hookups it might make sense but otherwise it's basically saying

1- You find it cool to start a relationship with someone you don't like just as if you're "doing them a favour" and breaking their heart

2- You're also so proud of yourself for being so manipulative and careless of his feelings. You're manipulative to the point that you view yourself as someone kind giving someone more than what they deserve.

3- You consider that a relationship is the man's chance to prove his worth. While your only role in a relationship is to evaluate his worth.

Edit: If you're uncertain, you're "giving it or us a chance" and that's very different than saying "giving him a chance"

I mean, if we're friends and you use this expression, please don't take this as if I'm talking about you, but I just can't help but see it this way.

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Patientlywaiting · 46-50, FVIP

In the early days of a relationship, sometimes you're not always sure that the person is for you so in conversation with others you might get say "I'll give him a chance" doesn't mean you're manipulative, uncaring or egotistical. Just that you are not quite sure. 🤷

SW-User

@Patientlywaiting There's a huge difference between "giving it or us a chance" versus "giving him a chance"

Patientlywaiting · 46-50, FVIP

@SW-User the other thing I thought about is that women are often more emotional with hidden insecurities, especially younger women. Projecting a view that she's "giving him a chance" is communicating that there are lots of other options, she's pursued and can take her pick. It probably makes her seem more confident. Also younger women are very used to getting played by men, so maybe she thinks it's cool to make out she's doing a bit of that herself.