One thing that is terrible is if at the end of a meal a group of people decides to split the whole bill

@SW-User yah like a date pay for the date unless its a first date and you notice them picking unusually expencive items

@SW-User my ex’s uncle was feeling generous one day (in the late 70’s) and invited all the kids in his family (8) with their spouses to a salad bar steakhouse. Everyone but one spoiled young sister-in-law got the salad bar, it had chicken wings and a lot of other protein items on it, not just salad. Sister-in-law orders the most expensive steak to go with her salad bar. She had no shame in such things. The man was paying for over 20 people’s meals and she felt special.

@cherokeepatti Somebody should have given her a separate bill for the steak. If people let it go, she'll keep doing it.

@SW-User She is a taker not a giver. Will take advantage of anyone. Would come around to people’s homes on the weekends for free meals. Popped over with her husband and kids one evening right around supper time. I was making dinner and making mashed potatoes. She sat there and said she liked French fries as I was peeling the potatoes. Told her I didn’t have enough cooking oil to make fries. And then she babbled on and mentioned that the weekends were her days off and she refused to cook at all on the weekends as though she was a little princess. She had young children, she had no job, and refused to cook for her own family on the weekends but it was OK to drop in others and expect them to cook for her. If I had known she was going to do that she would have had a meal that she would have never forgotten.

@cherokeepatti I have gotten to a point where I don't deal with it anymore. If someone is too lazy to cook or help, they are too lazy to eat too. As for people showing up at meal time... they'd be sadly sorry! lol I don't have much of a schedule anymore.
I had an in law a lot like the one you describe. I got tired of it and no longer have anything to do with that person. She is a user.

@SW-User Her husband eventually divorced her. Then she became an alcoholic managing a day care center. I don’t know about her now. This woman would run around all week long, dropping her young children off for the mother-in-law or her mother to care for. She would buy her lunch at fast food places and go out to eat for dinner as long as they had money. They were probably out of money by Saturday to go out to eat and this was the way she got meals. They could have made sandwiches or eggs for dinner if she had stocked up on groceries instead of blowing through the money.

@SW-User that's why i like Potluck group meals at like Hollidays and stuff

@PrettyMonkey This young woman was the type to bring a bottle of soft drink to a potluck, if that much.

@cherokeepatti group message what are you bringing

I'll bring soda

no its ok we already have some in our fridge you can bring something else oh how about a potato dish we still need that ok good thank you