Checking others' profiles privately isn't a sure thing.

I'm primarily a forum surfer. I like to visit a person's profile before I comment on their posting. It's better to know your audience, and their profile may give an idea of where they're coming from.

Unfortunately, VIPs know when you've checked them out, yet they have the ability to mask their VIP status. Also unfortunate is that they may take my looking as more than it is. So I get cold-call messages from them hopeful that I'm up for chatting, friendship, or something other than just me prepping before making a forum comment.

This makes me reluctant to click on profiles altogether, which makes me less likely to post comments. Lose-Lose.

SW officials: is it really a good idea giving VIPs this ability to monitor the rest of us in this way--secretly, no less?

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ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F

I agree. I am much the same, in that I would visit a profile for various reasons: to follow up on one of their previous posts, perhaps they piqued some curiosity in me by something they said and I want to investigate that further, I want to see where they are from, to read something they may have referred to in a comment/post, and sometimes just because I’m nosy as hell 😉

Basically, I just like to feel I have some idea who this person is before I start any further conversations.
However, once I out that many here are ‘hiding’ their VIP status, I am much more hesitant to visit profiles.

It’s kind of silly, on some level, given that the whole purpose of sites like these is to ‘mingle’ with others and to learn about people in general…no?
Oh well. Sometimes, I still just do it anyway. And if they see that I was there, so what?
It’s just me being nosy 🤷‍♀️

gailo · 61-69, F

@ImpeccablyImperfect All good, if only some of the VIPs wouldn't assume so much before PMing.