Weed cravings
Someone help I have anxiety and sleeping problems and I'm really craving weed but not allowed it by my boyfriend.
31-35, F
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Thats a real bummer.
Weed isnt that bad a temporary solution to anxiety, and its a wee bit controlling of him to force his ideals onto you.
(In fact, psychologically speaking: denying you the one thing you feel you need is a bit of a red flag combined with the rule setting)
- unless its because of the smell🤔
I dont think id want people to smoke weed in my home either - but on the porch is ok.
As an adult, you have a right to look after yourself.
He has a right to look after his home.
Surely there must be some sort of compromise?
Weed isnt that bad a temporary solution to anxiety, and its a wee bit controlling of him to force his ideals onto you.
(In fact, psychologically speaking: denying you the one thing you feel you need is a bit of a red flag combined with the rule setting)
- unless its because of the smell🤔
I dont think id want people to smoke weed in my home either - but on the porch is ok.
As an adult, you have a right to look after yourself.
He has a right to look after his home.
Surely there must be some sort of compromise?
BabyyBluee · 31-35, F
@OogieBoogie if he'd be cool with me going home for a few days would solve the issue but if I go home now he'd know it's for weed and I don't know how he'd take that
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BabyyBluee · 31-35, F
@OogieBoogie thank you so much for the advice. I need to work up the courage to let him know I'd like some time at home
OogieBoogie · F
@BabyyBluee i understand.
It isnt easy when love is involved.
Sometimes it masks or overpowers our abilty to see clearly.
In honest truth it might be worth one last discussion to find out why his attitude towards weed has changed.
(But i would be wary)
Those who exert a need for control in a relationship do it due to a number of possibilities:
- insecurity within themselves
- fear of abandonment
- or in rare cases: to push others away so they dont have to do it and feel responsible.
Worst reasons
- narcissist
- emotional vampire
But take it from me, and many others who have been in your position:
looking after yourself first is not selfish - its essential .
Smoking a bit of weed now and then isnt worth the big deal he seems to be making about it.
Im sure he has his own trivial faults or weaknesses.
Relationships are all about communication, compromise and care. - its hard work.
Now if you wanted to wrap your mouth around another guy instead of a joint .... we'd have a real issue to disicuss😂
It isnt easy when love is involved.
Sometimes it masks or overpowers our abilty to see clearly.
In honest truth it might be worth one last discussion to find out why his attitude towards weed has changed.
(But i would be wary)
Those who exert a need for control in a relationship do it due to a number of possibilities:
- insecurity within themselves
- fear of abandonment
- or in rare cases: to push others away so they dont have to do it and feel responsible.
Worst reasons
- narcissist
- emotional vampire
But take it from me, and many others who have been in your position:
looking after yourself first is not selfish - its essential .
Smoking a bit of weed now and then isnt worth the big deal he seems to be making about it.
Im sure he has his own trivial faults or weaknesses.
Relationships are all about communication, compromise and care. - its hard work.
Now if you wanted to wrap your mouth around another guy instead of a joint .... we'd have a real issue to disicuss😂
BabyyBluee · 31-35, F
@OogieBoogie hahahaha no I'm not trying to wrap my mouth around another guy. I get exactly what you're saying. All I need to do is speak up and I'm struggling
OogieBoogie · F
@BabyyBluee yeah😥
Confict isnt easy to overcome.
I just wanted to end on a upbeat.
This must be very hard for you.
Confict isnt easy to overcome.
I just wanted to end on a upbeat.
This must be very hard for you.
BabyyBluee · 31-35, F
@OogieBoogie it is. Thank you