Single life....and no, not looking.

So it's weird and daunting being single after 10+ years.
Kids keep me busy and distracted, both welcome btw.
However, and not that I want to anytime soon, how do you start to trust and be with someone again when you've spent so long with someone else who kind of broke you?

Definitely not an easy task, and I reckon the walls will be built even higher if I ever let another love interest into my life again.

This page is a permanent link to the reply below and its nested replies. See all post replies »

NewRaven · 51-55, F

After my divorce, I was in the same situation. I had a few FWB just to have some companionship and physical connection. That helped me with some of the healing I needed to do, especially with my damaged ego. Helped me bridge the gap.

PassingThrough · 41-45, M

@NewRaven I’d definitely be a bit like this too. Not using people but hopefully finding someone to bond with without any expectation if possible. Regain some of the physical affection I missed for a long time.

NewRaven · 51-55, F

@PassingThrough Yes. I had a few over a couple of years. Was very clear about what I could or couldn’t give. It worked very well.

PassingThrough · 41-45, M

@NewRaven I had a friend like that in my twenties after a bad break up. That worked really well too until I found out she wanted to get together more often and didn’t tell me. I was like “so I could have been having sex more than a few times a month?!” Lol yeah that was a facepalm moment.