It was a life-shaping experience
I'm doing well.
It's strange how everytime right after I breakup with someone I get like 3-5 exes reaching out to me through text or social media. Dead silence from suitors while I'm in a relationship... but then suddenly, it's like they can smell that Im single. And they all flock to me with "Hey, how have you been?" messages all at once. 馃槅 I don't know how this happens. I haven't spoken to anyone about the break up yet. I haven't made any posts (not my style). So it's weird how it always seems to happen like this.
When I respond, I am always courteous, but that doesn't change that I'm not interested in anything that they have to offer. If we had been there before, why go back? I typically give too many chances while in a relationship in the first place. No reason to entertain a "4th try"... but anyways, as I was working out this morning I just ran through my moat recent relationship in My head.
I imagined if he were one of the exes reaching out to me in the future... if he asked why did we go wrong? What can he do to fix it? Or why don't I feel anything anymore?... what would I say? I think my answer would be:
"When you treat someone like nothing, it's easy for them to feel nothing for you."
... I'm just kidding. I would never say something that. I'm much too nice. But it felt good to think about in the moment. It helped me understand why this is one of the most gentle breakups I've ever went through. I calmly ended it. No harsh words said. And he never replied... and his lack of connection throughout the relationship made it easy to not even care that he never answered. I had become accustomed to his stoic nature.
Anyways, just writing to say that I am well, and that it comes as a shock to me, because normally I need a few days to lay in bed feeling sorry for myself after something like this. But in this case, I am taking the good from the experience. I feel that I learned a lot from him about business, finance, and self-confidence. And I will always remember that sometimes people are only meant to be in your life for a season. Everyone has value. And you can find the gems in anyone and in any experience if you look hard enough.
It's strange how everytime right after I breakup with someone I get like 3-5 exes reaching out to me through text or social media. Dead silence from suitors while I'm in a relationship... but then suddenly, it's like they can smell that Im single. And they all flock to me with "Hey, how have you been?" messages all at once. 馃槅 I don't know how this happens. I haven't spoken to anyone about the break up yet. I haven't made any posts (not my style). So it's weird how it always seems to happen like this.
When I respond, I am always courteous, but that doesn't change that I'm not interested in anything that they have to offer. If we had been there before, why go back? I typically give too many chances while in a relationship in the first place. No reason to entertain a "4th try"... but anyways, as I was working out this morning I just ran through my moat recent relationship in My head.
I imagined if he were one of the exes reaching out to me in the future... if he asked why did we go wrong? What can he do to fix it? Or why don't I feel anything anymore?... what would I say? I think my answer would be:
"When you treat someone like nothing, it's easy for them to feel nothing for you."
... I'm just kidding. I would never say something that. I'm much too nice. But it felt good to think about in the moment. It helped me understand why this is one of the most gentle breakups I've ever went through. I calmly ended it. No harsh words said. And he never replied... and his lack of connection throughout the relationship made it easy to not even care that he never answered. I had become accustomed to his stoic nature.
Anyways, just writing to say that I am well, and that it comes as a shock to me, because normally I need a few days to lay in bed feeling sorry for myself after something like this. But in this case, I am taking the good from the experience. I feel that I learned a lot from him about business, finance, and self-confidence. And I will always remember that sometimes people are only meant to be in your life for a season. Everyone has value. And you can find the gems in anyone and in any experience if you look hard enough.
31-35, F
