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Finally... A Real Conversation..

He walked up to me a few hours ago and very sincerely apologized. I was kinda blown away. He also said he won't be bothering me anymore.

If you want to catch up, here's a previous story about him: https://similarworlds.com/single/4379733-Youve-GOT-to-be-kidding-right

This was very out of character for him and it seemed that our last interaction had an impact on him. I motioned for him to sit down. We started talking. Turns out I was right, he lives quite nearby. He's actually several years younger than me (him 24 to my 27), but he looks older than his age and I generally look younger.

He's still working toward his undergrad in engineering and has the summer off. The waiter came by to close out my lunch and called me Lieutenant (I'm a regular here).

"So you're really in the military?"

"Did you think I was lying?"

"No. But I just don't know anyone who is."

"Well now you do."

"So am I supposed to thank you or something?"

"For what?"

"Idk, everyone always thanks military people, right?"

"Well, that's entirely up to you. Yes, a lot of people do, but it's certainly not required."

That launched a whole discussion on military life and commitment and future plans, his and mine. Despite knowing nothing of the military, he was still surprised to hear I was likely separating from the Navy when my commitment was completed in January.

He was shocked when he finally comprehended that I'm living on my boat for the summer and that I had sailed it down here from New England.

It was the first REAL conversation we've had. I told him he's a lot more tolerable when he's just himself and not some jerk hitting on me. And I reminded him that I'm not looking for any relationships this summer. 🙂




A quiet peace settled over the docks... 🤣
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ShadowSister · 51-55, F
I have such mixed thoughts. On one hand, if you've got to deal with this guy, I guess this went as well as it can go. On the other hand, I'm annoyed that you feel obligated to even have a discussion with him in the first place. I would prefer that he just left you alone entirely.

My experience is that no matter how many times you tell them, guys do not care that you are not looking for any relationships. They will jump at anything they perceive as even a remote chance. Because, they think, no harm in trying, right?

I'm glad that if you had to have a conversation with this bozo, at least it went better.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@ShadowSister Obligated?? No. I don't think I have any obligation to talk to him.

But, I do try to be a nice person. And I do believe in second and third chances.

Don't worry though, I did tell him that nothing would irritate me more or quicker then him hitting on me again.
ShadowSister · 51-55, F
@sarabee1995
And I do believe in second and third chances.

Just please make sure he's not taking advantage of your civility. I understand wanting to be nice. But I do get the sense that he uses that impulse against you.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@ShadowSister Gotcha! 👍 Not to worry. He's permanently at arm's length, but I'm a nice person (most of the time) and will be social. That's all.
ShadowSister · 51-55, F
@sarabee1995
I'm glad that if you had to have a conversation with this bozo, at least it went better.

I just reread my initial comment and I laughed at how Biden-esque that sentence sounded.
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@ShadowSister The "bozo" part??? 🤔
ShadowSister · 51-55, F
@sarabee1995 Exactly. Dontcha think?
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@ShadowSister Perhaps. I know it's a word he uses. I'm not sure by itself that it makes your speech pattern Biden-esque. Maybe a little. 🙂