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Finally... A Real Conversation..

He walked up to me a few hours ago and very sincerely apologized. I was kinda blown away. He also said he won't be bothering me anymore.

If you want to catch up, here's a previous story about him: https://similarworlds.com/single/4379733-Youve-GOT-to-be-kidding-right

This was very out of character for him and it seemed that our last interaction had an impact on him. I motioned for him to sit down. We started talking. Turns out I was right, he lives quite nearby. He's actually several years younger than me (him 24 to my 27), but he looks older than his age and I generally look younger.

He's still working toward his undergrad in engineering and has the summer off. The waiter came by to close out my lunch and called me Lieutenant (I'm a regular here).

"So you're really in the military?"

"Did you think I was lying?"

"No. But I just don't know anyone who is."

"Well now you do."

"So am I supposed to thank you or something?"

"For what?"

"Idk, everyone always thanks military people, right?"

"Well, that's entirely up to you. Yes, a lot of people do, but it's certainly not required."

That launched a whole discussion on military life and commitment and future plans, his and mine. Despite knowing nothing of the military, he was still surprised to hear I was likely separating from the Navy when my commitment was completed in January.

He was shocked when he finally comprehended that I'm living on my boat for the summer and that I had sailed it down here from New England.

It was the first REAL conversation we've had. I told him he's a lot more tolerable when he's just himself and not some jerk hitting on me. And I reminded him that I'm not looking for any relationships this summer. 🙂




A quiet peace settled over the docks... 🤣
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TexChik · F
Ahhhhh! 😂
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@TexChik 🙂
TexChik · F
@sarabee1995 people grow through their interactions with others, especially with those they admire. He is obviously attracted to you and has some redeeming qualities or he wouldn’t have made his apology after what he sad to you or taken you up on your offer to sit down for a conversation. I suspect that won’t be the last of him. 😊
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@TexChik Definitely not the last of him. He lives literally one block from the waterfront area where I tend to hang out in the evenings after work, which itself is about a hundred yards from the marina where I keep my boat. So we will obviously cross paths.

As for redeeming qualities...
- in good shape and intelligent, but...
- very immature
- very vain
Basically, he is going to be someone's lump of clay to be molded, not mine.
TexChik · F
@sarabee1995 oh I think
You have already molded his character for the good ! 👍🏻
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@TexChik Oh I may have scratched the surface, but this one needs a LOT of work. I don't have the energy or motivation for that.
TexChik · F
@sarabee1995 people are a combination of influences and ideas
sarabee1995 · 26-30, F
@TexChik That's very true. And if my occasional crossing of paths with him over this summer causes an influence or two to pass over, then I am happy with that. It won't be an affirmative action on my part, but I do try to positively influence all around me. 🤷‍♀️
TexChik · F
@sarabee1995 when I was in school
My instructor's views as well as practicing surgeons ( that was my original goal) were great influences for me.