I couldn't wait to get out of a marriage that went bad. So how come now I feel so lost and direction less?

When you’ve been boxed in so long it takes time to get used to all the space

An old poem of mine... hope you can take some comfort from it

Masquerade

Feels life is a masquerade.
Random footsteps on dark parade.
Treading timeless in one place.
Mask held fast obscuring face.
Hiding scars from hurtful past.
Thinking scars will ever last.
Heart been broken pushed too far.
Needs protecting seal in jar.
No way out feeling low.
Life on auto where to go?
Willing life to slowly change.
Surrounding people rearrange.
Footsteps start to beat as one.
Walking forward to rising sun.
Mask moves by memories new.
Each bold step holding true.
Scars fading into past.
New felt feelings going to last.
Broken heart slowly mends.
New met people trusted friends.
A special friend start to meet.
Walk to dance step move feet.
Mask holding at the side.
Steps matching partners stride.
Slowly jar will start to break.
New found love not a fake.
New beginning fresh love starts.
Open fully Jar of Hearts.
Happiest couple in light parade.
Life’s no longer a masquerade.

Maybe it's that you invested so much of yourself, so much energy, time, effort and heart that now you need a moment to learn how to invest in yourself? Maybe you got used to having the pain and hurt be your companion and now all there is is emptiness, and you haven't yet found something new as a companion?

Lots of reason to feel as you do. It's also not all that helpful when you hear "time will heal it". You are feeling something real, something sad, and you are going to question it, question your decision to leave - it's natural to do so, and natural to feel the way you do.

It's quite human to feel the way you do... I'm sorry that you do, but also happy for you in knowing you did the right thing and will eventually get to the other side.

Because even though the marriage was not what you had hoped for you still feel a sense of loss

I am going through that now, and I am still trying to begin the starting over bit

Consider volunteering in a nursing home. Having coordinated dozens of such groups I know for a fact the positive effect it has, just your realizing at the end of the day what a huge difference you made to someone who no longer has a family, their own home etc. You added moments of a rare quality of life. You reinforced a few more days to their willingness to thrive.

Not only is your impact on a patients daily life, valuable, you become a bit more social being around other volunteers who are in EXACTLY the same frame of mind as you are. Many of these ladies and yes, even elder gentlemen form strong, beautiful friendships often for years. Just consider this as an option. I know exactly what I'm talking about. It CAN and will change your life.

I think that is entirely to be expected and you will come through with time, how long, who knows?

Aww, try and find something that makes you happy and give you self some time to heal ♥️

Change is never easy ...starting from scratch can be difficult at first ..i can imagine...think ...make a plan ...take it one step at a time until you have become comfortable with your new way of life ...it will take time ...

Give yourself time to heal properly. Get out and be with others when you can. Have a healthy diet, get some sun and workout as regularly as possible.

Things will improve dramatically with your happiness.

The right decision isn't always an easy one.

I got out of an abusive relationship that ended with me being cheated on.
Until now i still feel this way even tho im suree i did the right thing

Things will get better. I left a bad marriage after 23 years. It takes a little time. I went out with social groups to be around people to not get lonely and it helped me a lot.

You have left a marriage - a person you lived with and loved, a life you made together. Of course it will take time to find your feet again! Be kind and patient with yourself.

Sometimes even positive change is difficult.

I felt this way after my abusive relationship. It just takes time and you need to find yourself again. Figure out what it is that you like and indulge in it

Change is difficult but it sounds to me like in the long run it will be better for you and I wish you all the luck in the world!

You know when you leave Someone that you’ve been with for a long time it leaves a void in you even if it’s not a good void it’s still a void

half of you is gone.. i understand . its been years and i still feel that way.. it will get better. keep the good thoughts. mark

Sorry your break up has been so devastating...a lifetime thrown away and starting over must be a deep wound

Well, it’s not easy…
… you’re changing out from having been with someone for a very long period of time

Yeah it takes a little bit to find your bearings , but once you do things do get a lot better

Don’t forget to look up at the Sun and Sky and remind yourself…that, there will be better days ahead.

Things should be like breathing new air now , Expand your lungs and take in your new life.

Feel hugged, change feels like loss and even sadness sometimes but it will get better <3

you'l find someone new in time, for some people it can take time to get over somebody.

It's not unusual... not the least of which we are not designed to be alone.

Its a hard thing to get over. Dating sucks. Can i pm you?

It can be scary, even a bad marriage has a certain sense of security

Read, "How to survive the loss of a love".

I am in the same boat and hate it .

You’re beautiful…you can do it,

It will get better! Hang in there.

It's the loss of familiarity.

Hope you are out of it

Date. Freedom is awesome.

Emotions Vs. Mind

It will pass

It gets better 😊

How long has it been?

It’s a big shift
It’ll take time
Good luck in your journey

I hope you find happiness

Are there children involved?

Did you find your direction yet?

We’re you married along time ?

Wow beautiful legs

Give it time, you'll find yourself again