I just want someone to actually love me is that too much to ask for?

@MarkPaul that's not very encouraging...

@Myocite Yes, I am aware of that. But, it is not wise to always candy-coat all feedback. Sometimes brutal honesty is in order. Don't worry, I suspect this lad is a tough cookie. He can take it.

@MarkPaul humans need hope.

@Myocite Humans need 3 things...

1. Motivation which sometimes requires a kick in the arse.
2. Behaviour modification in the form of therapy.
3. Brutal honesty no matter how brutal and how honest.

Everything else is irrelevant.

@MarkPaul I beg to differ. I motivate myself- I don't need anyone else to lead me. Sometimes brutal honesty is more harmful than helpful. Not everyone needs therapy.

@Myocite You don't have the qualifications that I have. I know what I am doing and I don't take kindly to having my treatment questioned by lay people.

@MarkPaul you mean your qualifications of living half the time I've lived? Are you actually serious because your reaction is highly inappropriate.

@MarkPaul I mean, lots of people find love all the time. For them, it definitely wasn't too much to ask for; it seems premature to assert that it's too much for OP to ask for, right?

@Myocite Your age isn't even listed, so I would say that creates suspicion right off the bat, as they say. And, your behaviour dictates some of that brutal honesty I told you about.

@BlueVeins Yeah, but...

@MarkPaul I "talk" about my age in different posts. Im 55. Suspicion about what?

@MarkPaul markpaul, you're doing the thing! 😅

@Myocite Well, suspicion about your credibility for one thing.

@BlueVeins Oh... yeah. Damn. I didn't even realize... I think this may be a real thing for me on and off line.

@MarkPaul my credibility in what way?

@Myocite OMG. I just think that you don't understand the situation in a way to be helpful in a practical way. That's all.

@MarkPaul Your treatment? You are telling him that to be loved is too much to ask for? What form of treatment is that?
It doesn’t sound like sound advice, and frankly your “3 things" comment sounds like you don’t know much about people.

Some of us are loved (despite our flaws)....and it’s not unreasonable to want to be loved.
People have died because of a lack of love (I doubt that happens much because of a lack of behavior modification in the form of therapy).

@Myocite I agree with you, I don’t think he’s right at all (and I’ve consulted with psychiatrists on legal matters).

@MarkPaul I Disagree, & can't believe what a waste of time you have been. All so you could try to keep someone from having hope. What an ugly immature person you are.

@MarkPaul You mentioned that you have qualifications. What are you referring to?

@Myocite You're just giving the lad greeting card sentiments to make yourself feel like you have accomplished something great. Encouraging people to lounge in self-pity is hardly helpful no matter how gratifying it makes you feel, personally.

@BlueVeins Psychology class, some academic papers and discussions, some personal experience. And, independent study, I guess you could say.

@MarkPaul are you saying just one psychology class, plus the other stuff? that seems a bit slim and honestly, I don't think you understand other people well at all. I fully believe that you have good intentions, but you almost never seem able to tell the way your comments make other people feel and I'd wish you'd go into these conversations with an understanding of that reality.

@BlueVeins I don't think that's entirely fair. My point is I'm not a complete novice when it comes to human relations from a psychology perspective. I'm not saying I am a registered or licensed practitioner.

And yes, we both know I have a trace of awareness related issues when it comes to people's reactions. It's that trace of social anxiety that I have... is my theory. That's why I am always so receptive to your feedback on these matters. I guess I sometimes get lost in my intentions and forget to take a minute to think about the impact of the words. But, still...

@BlueVeins And, I have information to share using a technique that I think has merit, but probably needs some perfecting. I don't know. I thought I was doing a good thing. Now, I'm not so sure.

@BlueVeins And, I understand people to a degree in certain circumstances anyway. 🥺