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Dilemma about wife going topless...

My wife is quite comfortable about being topless. Most weekends she spends time outside tanning (NONE of her swimming costumes have tops) and most days she walks around the house topless. Friends and family are quite used seeing her without a top and random visitors/delivery people have never raised an objection...so she's quite happy that way.

The firm that she works for has a corporate box at one of our important rugby stadiums and sometimes host important guests there when a major game is being played. They recruit my my wife and two other married ladies from the office as waitresses/hostesses. There is NEVER any untoward behavior or horseplay allowed - everything quite above board.

Two days ago my wife and the other two ladies were approached by their manager to ask them once again to do their waitressing thing, but this time as there are going to be VIPs from Austria, they were each offered an extra 700 bucks each if they were prepared to do the waitressing topless.

The other two (after having 'phoned their husbands) have agreed, my wife asked me and I told her that it's no problem since most people we know have seen her topless before anyway.

She feels that it might be creepy though going back to work and knowing that everyone she works with will have seen her. It's not the being topless that worries her...it's the fact that everybody in the office will know exactly what she looks like under her shirt.

I'm confused...she normally doesn't give two hoots about ANYONE seeing her topless. She says she's probably going to do it anyway, but I was wondering...any of you out there with some advice, should she? Shouldn't she?

Thanks in anticipation 👍
A boss asking his employer to waitress topless does not sound "quite above board", let alone on a semi-work event. She should definitely not do it, have a talk with HR and probably find a new job.
Kirin4OTK · 70-79, M
@NerdyPotato Agreed.
sylvsn59 · 61-69, M
@NerdyPotato Yea, that's big bucks lawsuit here in US and that boss is toast. Put me down as skeptical.
byteybits · 61-69
Hi everyone. Well it seems as though the whole thing has become a moot point. Last night casually reminded me "...don't forget I'll be home late on Friday...". She's goint to do the hostessing thing. Actually it makes sense because we did (briefly) discuss it and she mentioned that it was silly to ponder the subject since half the people that will be there are house guests and have seen her topless anyway. We have a pool and normally people who visit bring their costumes as we usually end up barbecuing and swimming (less of a mess in the house😁). The wife would never DREAM of getting into the pool with a top on, and as I mentioned, I don't think any of her costumes have a top (she just buys bottoms separately).

Anyway...no more dilemma!

Thank you to everyone that took the time out to answer. Keep well and happy everybody 👍.
WandererTony · 56-60, M
[quote]the fact that everybody in the office will know exactly what she looks like under her shirt.[/quote]
This seems like a tough situation if you ask me! I think she should accept but compensation not just for the evening, but a permanent pay hike as the effect will be long lasting in office. 😀
byteybits · 61-69
Edit: OK ....maybe I didn't explain a bit of background...

Firstly, for those that were asking about her age, she is 14 years younger than me (yeah yeah I know...but it works for us) and she is in very good shape, lives a good lifestyle and takes care of herself.

Secondly, this is the only company she has ever worked for. She joined them straight out of school and consequently she has more than just a working relationship with the people. Indeed, some of the people (including one of the bosses and his wife) have become house friends of ours. None of the people are strangers, they're more like a family of long-time co-workers. It's not the cold, clinical working environment of the big corporate.

Thirdly, NOBODY is pushing anybody to do anything. It was merely a request.

Hopefully this will add a bit of perspective to the situation 😉
Baremine · 70-79, C
@byteybits so that puts her between 45-55 which is the same age bracket when my wife was rethinking things for no real reason. Sounds like one of those unexplainable things guys don't understand. It is the difference in wiring. Sounds like a good wife.
byteybits · 61-69
Edit: OK ....maybe I didn't explain a bit of background...

Firstly, for those that were asking about her age, she is 14 years younger than me (yeah yeah I know...but it works for us) and she is in very good shape, lives a good lifestyle and takes care of herself.

Secondly, this is the only company she has ever worked for. She joined them straight out of school and consequently she has more than just a working relationship with the people. Indeed, some of the people (including one of the bosses and his wife) have become house friends of ours. None of the people are strangers, they're more like a family of long-time co-workers. It's not the cold, clinical working environment of the big corporate.

Thirdly, NOBODY is pushing anybody to do anything. It was merely a request.

Hopefully this will add a bit of perspective to the situation 😉
JustJan · F
I find it really nice that she and the other 2 ladies didn't just go ahead and accept or not accept as the case maybe, but had such confidence to let their partners all know what was being offered ,
What ever the outcome know she has you at Heart x
byteybits · 61-69
@JustJan Hi there...thank you for your reply. I'm a little confused as to how this forum works and only now starting to figure things out...hence my late reply.

I have tried to explain in another post (sigh) that she didn't think about it much...she's going to do it....just casually reminded me to remember she'll be late coming home that night. As I indicated, she REALLY isn't fussed at all about being topless or being seen topless...
byteybits · 61-69
Edit: OK ....maybe I didn't explain a bit of background...

Firstly, for those that were asking about her age, she is 14 years younger than me (yeah yeah I know...but it works for us) and she is in very good shape, lives a good lifestyle and takes care of herself.

Secondly, this is the only company she has ever worked for. She joined them straight out of school and consequently she has more than just a working relationship with the people. Indeed, some of the people (including one of the bosses and his wife) have become house friends of ours. None of the people are strangers, they're more like a family of long-time co-workers. It's not the cold, clinical working environment of the big corporate.

Thirdly, NOBODY is pushing anybody to do anything. It was merely a request.

Hopefully this will add a bit of perspective to the situation 😉
Nelisme · 22-25, F
She has to be comfortable with it. If you push her and it doesn’t go well at work, of if men start hitting on her cause they think she’s easy, it won’t be nice.
Baremine · 70-79, C
I don't see a problem. Sounds like maybe she is getting older, a slow readjusting of what concerns her. Went through that with my wife. Neither of us can explain it.
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seems like the thin end of a wedge if you ask me
CANDAULISTHUSBAND · 51-55, C
If she has any doubts, she shouldn't.
WalterF · 70-79, M
No point in replying to this post, he's asking for opinions but not acknowledging them. Waste of time
WalterF · 70-79, M
@byteybits Thanks for that.
Will you let us know how the evening goes? Many of us would be interested in hearing
byteybits · 61-69
@WalterF Will do...but I don't think it'll be really any different from the other nights that the woman do their hostessing thing. It's all above board.

Hmm come to think of it though...the other two ladies might be a bit nervous...I think my wife is the only one of the three who has no worries/apprehension about people seeing her topless...anyway...will let you know👍
WalterF · 70-79, M
@byteybits Looking forward to that. Other men's eyes on a wife's charms can be exciting
Quimliqer · 70-79, M
That’s an interesting conundrum!!!

 
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