I Am Working On Myself

I was recently widowed for the second time. I told friends I will never marry again. They tell me I should not rule it out. That I was happy married and can find another husband. I guess I shouldn’t say never, but how do I stop them from trying to fix me up?

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Kodel · 26-30, M

Be sincere with them. They cannot possibly understand what you are going through. To lose people that close twice in a row would be soul-crushing. It makes me tear up just hearing about it. I'm so sorry for your losses and I hope you're doing as well as you can now.
I would tell them that I need time to process this. These are severe wounds and I would even recommend seeing a counselor or something along those lines. If you did you could tell your friends that you are seeking professional help and as much as you value their opinions, they should leave the situation be and allow you to handle it.

SecondMarge · F

@Kodel thanks for caring and the suggestion.

Kodel · 26-30, M

@SecondMarge No worries at all. When I read your post I couldn't scroll past without saying something. I truly hope things improve for you and that you conquer this.