I've never been one for forced conversations, nor will I have them. We have to click in some capacity.
On the flipside, I've learned a lot from others who've expressed their sadness and opened up about really personal info. I've also found a couple wonderful additions to my life that way too.
I know you well enough to believe your intentions were well meant in this post, my friend. Sometimes we lose the translations of our thoughts through our words. I've done it a time or twenty 🫣🫣
@MoonlightLullaby it's I done years ago under the profile name of antonioio It's account I can't get into over lost email account Basically I meant that it should not be forced conversation
Sage advice in a way, but opening your loneliness can really create deep meanings together, from being vulnerable, but I'll second, the more you live life, the more you have to share, I think this is where you are going.
@assemblingaknob Starting points: What do you like about this place? What's been on your mind most lately? Did you see the latest (name of movie at the local cinema)? What did you think? What are your favourite interests? And then ask in more depth about what attracts them to it, what they've learned, what they get from it.
Even the old standard, "how are you?" is not bad. If they say, "very well, thanks" you can ask, "what's the secret?" If they say, "under the weather, not coping," you can ask if they'd like to talk about it. If yes, just accept whatever they say, never try to give advice unless they ask for it.
Once a bit of rapport is established you can start to ask them more - their life journey, interests, relationships, work, talents, values, etc.
If they don't, at some point ask you about you, then find a time to gently exit and find someone who reciprocates. A one way conversation means little chance of real relating.
SW-User
When I'm lonely I don't talk to anyone because it makes me feel worse
