You're not pathetic. It's our culture that's pathetic. For most of human history we've lived in communities where everyone supported each other, knew each other. If you were born in it, you were part of it. Recently humanity has descended into individualism and a system where everyone fends for themselves. People forget that we humans are beings of community and social connection. We have the ability to collaborate. We evolved in tribes and villages. Social units. There wasn't the epidemic of loneliness we're experiencing today.