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I Spend a Lot of Time By Myself

And I am CONTENT with it. Why can't others SEE my POV?

Both my brothers ask me. I have a friend who is constantly asking me to "go out and eat" with her. The topper was just this week when a virtual stranger (a real estate agent) was interviewing me on getting an apartment at their facility. The weather outside was lousy (snowstorm) when, out of a clear blue sky, she said, "Well, when the weather is better and there's no snow, do you ever go out?"

What difference does it make, as long as I pay my rent on time and my own bills? I have things to do here and can entertain myself sufficiently. She continued. "Well, when it gets warm enough, you can go out and sit in the courtyard."

I was bugged to do the same thing by my one friend to sit out on the patio and read. That patio belongs to the first floor tenants, and I have plenty of chairs inside when I want to read. If I want to sit in a courtyard, I can go to a park and feed pigeons.

I have a walker and severely arthritic knees. Everybody who knows me knows this. I just got a call from my one brother about "changing your eating habits" and "buying less". I will make any adjustments necessary. I did when I moved in here nine years ago, and now that I have to leave, I'll do it once again. And who cares WHAT I eat and where I buy it? It is MY money.

I can be content alone. I like to have friends, but not all the time. And, please, DON'T tell me how to live my life!
iamnikki · 31-35, F
Completely understand. I used to get asked " you don't go out much huh"?
I have money, I have a car. I can go out when I please. Now a days I get "you are quiet," or "you don't talk much do you". Well what would you like to talk about? The weather? No one asks for my life story so why just start talking about pointless things?
I do like being outdoors but I get how you feel.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
MaryJanine · 61-69, F
@iamnikki When I came to my new apartment (to have an interview with the realtor) my one brother took me over. We got out of the car, and my brother said, in so many words, "Shut up. Don't say a word. I'll do the talking."

And he did. He answered all the realtor's questions and bragged about his accompishments. Finally, he ran ot of gas. The relator turned to me and said, "Are you the youngest?"

I was the oldest and the one looking for an apartment and said so.Both of them were floored.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@MaryJanine your brother seems very mean
MaryJanine · 61-69, F
@iamnikki His confirmation name seems to be "money". He has three jobs and likes to brag about how much money he has in the bank, how he is not hurting for money, and how he paid off his mortgage early. I don't like it and he knows it. I can make do on what I have right now, but I think his problem is, I am 10 months his senior, he thinks he knows everything and I know nothing.
iamnikki · 31-35, F
@MaryJanine Can't stand folks like that. He's obviously tryng to make up for whatever it is that he lacks.
MaryJanine · 61-69, F
@iamnikki Yeah - tact.
idlethoughts · 56-60, M
ur entitled to live ur own life without others telling u what u should do. the most important part is that ur content. nothing else really matters. I hope u can just enjoy the peace & quiet u want.
idlethoughts · 56-60, M
@MaryJanine I wish I had an answer for u regarding how to get the message across to such people. Sadly some just have no idea beyond their own thinking. I guess all u can do is keep trying in the hope that one day u will be heard. all the best in living life how u want to.
@MaryJanine Your brother never seems to have grown up. He acts like a naughty, selfish little boy who has no respect for his sister.
MaryJanine · 61-69, F
@RobinPhoenix I hate to admit to it but you are right, Just last night, he called and asked if my Social Security check had been deposited yet. When I said "No" he asked me how much I had in the bank and didn't I have enough to write the check? I told him, "I'll do it tomorrow when the check goes in."

He whined, "Well, why can't you do it now?"

Jesus on the road on Easter morning...it's MY check and MY money.

MaryJanine.
MaryJanine · 61-69, F
@iamnikki His confirmation name seems to be "money". He has three jobs and likes to brag about how much money he has in the bank, how he is not hurting for money, and how he paid off his mortgage early. I don't like it and he knows it. I can make do on what I have right now, but I thinks his problem is, I am 10 months his senior, he thinks he knows everything and I know nothing.
Adaydreambeliever · 56-60, F
Agreed, people are always thinking they know best.. but they don't

 
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