My ex was a physically warm person. He had the warmest hands.

He sounds like a POS, and I'm not trying to be insensitive, just things that you've written have led to this conclusion for me. I'm way sorry you had to deal with someone like him.

I am a physically warm person. My hands alone can warm a person. I'm also an empath. Sometimes good. Sometimes bad for me. I want to make others feel good.

hypothetically if my lover were cold I've got electric blankets, I'd get one for her. Especially since I'm extra cold sensitive myself.

"There were so many signs that he didn't actually want or care about me. I can't understand why he thought he did."

He is broken. He wanted you, but he did not know how to love you in the way you need.

He's a broken thing that you cannot fix. It is on him.

I understand feeling like it's something to do with you, but he is like this with everyone. It doesn't matter how lovely you could possibly be... He does not have the skill set to be a good companion.

I'm glad he's your EX.

Im so glad you put him in past

Withdrawing intimacy/touching for no reason at all, is emotional abuse imo.