I Am My Own Worst Enemy

I don't know why I keep doing this to myself. Why I can't seem to move on when everyone is telling me that's what I have to do.
How do you move on from a relationship that seemed perfect? When he seems so lost and unsure.
He went out with his friends for the 1st time in over 10 months. Stupidly I asked 2 of our mutual friends how he was. I know I shouldn't have and no, neither one has talked to me. I don't think he's coping too well and it's making it harder for me to try and move on. I'm adamant that he's depressed and pushing me away. If he was okay wouldn't they have said?

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goliathtree · 56-60, M

Moving on is hard. There are no two ways about it...no gray area. It is hard.

There is very little that can be said that can make it easier for you, but talking about it puts it right out there and that is a start.

Bleed · 41-45, F

I feel like all I've done is talk about it. Its not getting easier and I'm sure I'm just pissing people off with it now.

goliathtree · 56-60, M

my kids have gone down a dark road that I have no control over and for a couple years it killed me. I thought...head down...push forward...hope they come around. Finally, after a lot of talking about it, my wife and I decided that we needed to put it behind us...as hard as that sounds. I still have dark days, but we are living our lives. It takes time.