I Am Lonely

@heherhelp: It is not, as many who have found it will confirm. However, sometimes love finds you when you are not looking for it.

@heherhelp: I think the belief that there is one is a scam. There are many with home you could make a wonderful life and enjoy many adventures. There is so much pressure behind the idea of the one. But love can be found with several and made deeper and cultivated to grow.

Please note, I believe once one commits to love one then that one should be considered all.

@heherhelp: I disagree, also such love can be fostered from a mutual attraction that is quite common.

@heherhelp: It can be quite a long time. That attraction can also be fostered. Love isn't always easy. But it is good. It takes commitment and dedicated effort to continue to love when the going gets tough, as it will from time to time, but the rewards for doing so are plentiful.

@heherhelp: Oh, I wouldn't doubt that. Humans are, but they are not so broken that they cannot make beautiful things. I didn't have high school relationships. I am not that kind of person.

For that example I can give you many many of men and women who love each other deeply and continued to be committed through thick and thin. I rented a room from an older couple while I was in school for a year. I got to see their beautiful marriage in action as they cooked together, talked about their days over the dinner table, enjoyed each other's company during their tv shows.

People forget what led up to these tramatic events, these terrible results. There must be an awareness of the spark and putting fuel on the flame to be successful. It isn't always easy. But it is often easy because when you love someone it is easier to do things they appreciate. The hard moments should be the few, and the great the man. But to say that the hard moments cannot be overcome is to buy the lie that complete failure is inevitable.

@heherhelp: I know many women that want families still. I also know many guys that are okay with her focusing on her career and don't necessarily want children. I know people who have made serious commitments that run alongside their goals and ambitions and wrapped up with them making sure that one doesn't trump another.

As a whole the culture has moved away from the idea of a nuclear family. But there are plenty of individuals that adhere to that philosophy if that is what you are looking for. There are more than a handful.