So if its a lonely and loveless marriage, would she be interested in opening up the relationship to discretely play with others?

My advice is don't use your kids as an excuse to stay in a loveless marriage. Kids are not stupid, regardless of their age. They know if their parents do not love each other. Besides, maybe your wife does love you? Maybe it's just that you don't love her? Either way, be honest with her and yourself. Talk it out and if you decide to go your own ways so be it. Then you will need two things, lawyers, and lots of time with your "little ones" before you complicate things with another woman. That is just my advice. You could really wind up messing up the rest of your life if you get caught cheating.

This is incredibly sad. I feel for you, my friend.

If you get a really good response, let me know. Ask her if she has friends or sisters

Why’d you have babies after 16 years and not be in love did someone force you To marry her

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