I Am Sad and Lonely

This week has been a total nightmare. I've been having arguments with family and my fiancé has been drinking all week. It's sunday night and he's still drinking in the living room listening to loud music.
I cleaned two nights ago and it doesn't even seem like it. He smashed a beer bottle on the floor while arguing and blamed me for it. He still hasn't cleaned it up. The living room is a total disgust. I feel like I'm gonna lose my shit and just leave.

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Sepia · 36-40, F

It's sad to be engage with a partner like that..I wonder why do you stay in a relationship with this man

LostSoul17 · 26-30, F

Honestly, I've been through a lot worse before (he's nothing compared to what I've experienced) and little things like him drinking everyday don't really bother me (he's the type to buy some drinks and share with his friends while playing videogames or watching tv), it's afterwards, when he starts complaining of wanting to change and then goes back to drinking 2 days later. It's the promises he makes to me and himself and then brakes them. It's a little disappointing. But in reality, he's always very sweet and always there when I need him.

Sepia · 36-40, F

@LostSoul17: girl...try to re-evaluate your relationship with this guy before tying the knot..I may sound odd but just a kind message :)

LostSoul17 · 26-30, F

Yeah, I get what you mean. I have been thinking about it a lot. Some nights I can't even sleep just thinking of the situation. I am returning the ring, but I want find the right words to not hurt his feelings or make him think I'm braking up. Hopefully, he'll understand and we'll continue our relationship without the commitment of marriage.

Sepia · 36-40, F

@LostSoul17: if you do love him just tell that the change must be serious but if still he hasn't changed be brave and make your way..18-21 age bracket? Aww your very young :)

Serenitree · F

@LostSoul17: just because you've had worse, doesn't mean you don't deserve better. Breaking things and blaming you is building up to hitting you because of what he did. After all, if it's your fault, you deserve to be hit. Right? At least that's what they tell themselves. Everything is somebody else's fault.

[b]YOU DESERVE BETTER[/b]

Kind and sweet when he isn't being mean isn't good enough,,for you, or anyone.