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I Am Lonely

My boyfriend is not romantic at all. He never makes a long conversation like other boyfriends do. Sometimes I catch myself not wanting to spend time with him because I hate the boring silence between us or having crushes on other guys. I wished he was excited about my birthday. He forgets it. Last birthday he gave me a Bible. I bought him gifts on every occasion but he never appreciates it. He never introduced me to his friends or family. He never came to visit me after I moved to a city. Whenever I ask him he says he's busy and he can't come. On his last birthday, I took him to my friends. I told them that it was his birthday and he never even bothered to treat me for the occasion. He took it as an insult. We argued about it. This time we argued because he put his female friend's picture along with him and his other friend as profile pic on WhatsApp. As always he blamed me that I was hurting him. I got so annoyed and sad because he never thought why I argued in the first place. It's like he's taking me for granted. I don't know what to do. Should I break up with him or not? It's not that I wanted but he should know about my worth and he shouldn't take me for granted.
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I love him. But I can't help to find that our relationship is missing something. He doesn't know it because I'm always around him doing everything he asks. He doesn't even realise that I have feelings and I need his love and care. And I'm used to being ignored by him. He doesn't even listen to me when I talk about it. He says I'm being too silly and a bother to him. Well, not anymore.
Mahjack · 31-35, M
Staying with him after all what happened just shows that you're weak to him. Take a step and end it. Perhaps, he doesn't love you anymore and wants to move on.

Just text him that you're breaking up and that you're interested in someone else (even if you're not). Don't discuss it, just text him that and ignore / block him. At least, he will feel a bit of what you've been feeling all this time.

I'd advise you to meet someone who would actually love you.
SW-User
I have crushes on guys. I thought it's because I'm bad. But it's not my mind is directing towards other guys because I'm not getting enough attention from my boyfriend. Still my heart stayed with him because I can't leave him. I tried to engage with him but it went wrong. He thinks that I'm hurting him on purpose. I tried to break up but he's the one who comes back. But after two days he goes back to normal.
SW-User
He says he loves me but he blames me at the same time. Yes he under appreciates me and never understand me. It hurts me so much. But what hurts more is making him cry when I said I wanted a break. I wished he could know what I'm going through now. I'm crying now while I'm typing this.
Annie1899 · 36-40, F
How long have you been together? It sounds like you don't feel appreciated and the two of you aren't communicating well. Do you feel that you've spelled out your needs clearly, at a time when you aren't arguing?
Annie1899 · 36-40, F
Some relationships do run their course. But the reason I asked about talking to him when there is no argument, is that you can calmly gather information about his attitude when he is hopefully calm too.
Annie1899 · 36-40, F
Well, maybe you need to calmly spell out to him what you need, and then make your decision. One question to ask yourself is: Do you like the person you are when you're with him?
SW-User
No I can't go on with someone who doesn't listen to me. I'm leaving him. Maybe move on. I hope he realises his mistake someday.
Jon2403 · 61-69, M
sounds like a lost cause with your boyfriend with taking you for granted. And the boyfriend will never change.
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I can't get his attitude much because we don't communicate much. At least he doesn't.
Annie1899 · 36-40, F
Are there any conclusions that you can draw from what you just said?
MuteMeDaddy · 18-21, F
It's time to break up and move on honey
coolman86 · 36-40, M
annie1899 all relationships run their course
coolman86 · 36-40, M
break up with him stop complaining
parttimelisa · 61-69, M
You are being used.
SW-User
It's been 2 years.
loveneeded74 · 46-50, M
Time to leave

 
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