I Keep Things to Myself

I'm really bad for this and it's ruined many a relationship for me. I keep in those little niggles and let them build into resentment. If I do finally speak my mind it comes out in an angry torrent. I suppose this is better than nothing but I want to be able to talk about things as they come up.

I've stuck to online relationships for so long because of this, far easier to write my feelings down in a text than to sit someone down, look them in the eye and tell them how they are crossing the line.

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SW-User

My wife came from a broken childhood and I swear I see the same in her.

ZenKitzune · F

@SW-User I'm not really sure where it comes from, I think I've always been that way. Maybe because my mother was likely to snap or dismiss and my dad was likely to make fun.

SW-User

There’s a book called “How to hug a porcupine.”

My wife is very much a porcupine but while reading it, I realized I was too.

Maybe you could take a look at it (it is short and cute) and see if there are traits you could learn to adjust.

ZenKitzune · F

@SW-User I am learning to adjust, it's important to overcome because I can't be close to anyone without doing so.