Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@JamesBugman yh, that's what I'm thinking too and i actually liked him.
JollyRoger · 70-79, M
I think your conversation with this "guy' was well worth your time and effort. WHY?
Well...you found out many things ao about his personality that he had hidden from you previously. You (according to your account) found that he thinks he's more intelligent and smarter than you - yes, having intellihence is different from being smart. I'm not saying that he is either of those, but he thinks he is.
Secondly, don't judge yourself based on some games and tools that you haven't used before....everyone (even him) has to understand and practise - it's called learning, and he prejudged you unfairly.
Thirdly, not all people are adept at the skills required to manipulate some equipment...That's why we need tradespeople in our society- to do specialized jobs for us...AND fourthly...you have other skills that you were using in your conversations with him: skills like personal engagement, friendship, kindness, willingness to try something challenging....and probably other important social skills that he obviously needs, otherwise he would be seeking women he could socialize with rather than hiding in a room somewhere in a foteign country.
You therefore are fortunate to have found out what he is truly worth and now you can use this experience when you converse with other men. I guarantee you that we are not all so demeaning, self-centered and close-minded as this 'little boy' who does not value women as people.
Well...you found out many things ao about his personality that he had hidden from you previously. You (according to your account) found that he thinks he's more intelligent and smarter than you - yes, having intellihence is different from being smart. I'm not saying that he is either of those, but he thinks he is.
Secondly, don't judge yourself based on some games and tools that you haven't used before....everyone (even him) has to understand and practise - it's called learning, and he prejudged you unfairly.
Thirdly, not all people are adept at the skills required to manipulate some equipment...That's why we need tradespeople in our society- to do specialized jobs for us...AND fourthly...you have other skills that you were using in your conversations with him: skills like personal engagement, friendship, kindness, willingness to try something challenging....and probably other important social skills that he obviously needs, otherwise he would be seeking women he could socialize with rather than hiding in a room somewhere in a foteign country.
You therefore are fortunate to have found out what he is truly worth and now you can use this experience when you converse with other men. I guarantee you that we are not all so demeaning, self-centered and close-minded as this 'little boy' who does not value women as people.
Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@JollyRoger omg. Thank you!!🥰🥰🥰🥰
KingFeeder · 36-40, M
Everyone has a hard time with video games the first time they play. Everyone.
He doesn't sound like a kind person. Staying with him means you'll have a venomous critic for the rest of your life. Or more likely till he dumps you for someone he sees as better. Because that is what critical people do.
He doesn't sound like a kind person. Staying with him means you'll have a venomous critic for the rest of your life. Or more likely till he dumps you for someone he sees as better. Because that is what critical people do.
Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@KingFeeder yeah, that's really my take on things. We are no together in a sense. I've never met him but we've been having consistent communication since late May, and I might see him when i visit his country. I'm reconsidering meeting him.
KingFeeder · 36-40, M
@Barkingpuppy Good for you! And there are plenty of fish in the sea. I'm sure you'll find the right one right when you least expect it.
Popobandar4 · 26-30, M
You are overthinking this,
When we start something new every bad person can shatter your confidence because they don't care about what you feel...
Don't take him seriously, he probably trying to overcome his own inferiority complex by saying things like that, as he earlier said you are out of his league
When we start something new every bad person can shatter your confidence because they don't care about what you feel...
Don't take him seriously, he probably trying to overcome his own inferiority complex by saying things like that, as he earlier said you are out of his league
Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@Popobandar4 maybe. I feel anxiety when trying new things. I felt pressured and was extremely embarassed last night. Cause i shouldntbe so bad at a video game..ha
Popobandar4 · 26-30, M
@Barkingpuppy that's not a big deal, it was just a game ...they way you reasoning it out i think you are quite sharp ... i mean how well you have framed your ownself
masterofyou · 70-79, M
Well you found out how immature he is. You're fine everyone has problems with math.. Except the brainy nerds that can't express themselves socially or even tie their shoes, i would love to be your online date it wo be beautiful and you would be amazing for anyone that wants to date you....
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oldguy73 · 70-79, M
get nedical help, please don't ask people here, see a dr.
Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@oldguy73 I'm trying to see if this warrants medical help. Do most people geasp things so quickly?
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I'm not stabilizing the automated system pushing that agenda
@pentagrammom Are you the guy she was talking to?
Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@JamesBugman 😂 inwas wondering if it was a bot.
These posts will be traced and offending programs handled
@pentagrammom Yes, get rid of all offending programs.
Stop wasting resources, automated processing override
masterofyou · 70-79, M
You are probably smarter than he is .... You definitely do not have brain damage...🫶
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@Barkingpuppy it's one of those cyclical thought processes for me - first blush, no. clearly not. it's just not something you've spent as much time on, developed the skills for, you're in an unexpected situation and getting pressured, perhaps not handling it as well as you could and certainly not as well as he expects (which is also a very weird thing for him to be doing - placing this sort of expectation on you. particularly as a first date/meetup sort of thing).
but that you don't recognize all of this on your own and wonder/worry about/ask people/try to improve when he's pulled you into his little world of specialized skills - which on its own could be great, but not even trying vaguely to meet you part way or welcome/help/teach/improve you in any way with these things he likes to do and consider it a shortcoming/physical damage/flaw in your own brain kinda brings me back to a 'yeah, well. maybe.'
but that you don't recognize all of this on your own and wonder/worry about/ask people/try to improve when he's pulled you into his little world of specialized skills - which on its own could be great, but not even trying vaguely to meet you part way or welcome/help/teach/improve you in any way with these things he likes to do and consider it a shortcoming/physical damage/flaw in your own brain kinda brings me back to a 'yeah, well. maybe.'
Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@dirge ha. I'm not good with the social skills, i can pick up on stuff yes. Like i know he was being awful but when caught in such situations, I just freeze.
And it's the fact that these awkward stuff will happen to me now and again, that really makes me question my.mind.
Maybe i need more practice but still, it hurts a bit.
And it's the fact that these awkward stuff will happen to me now and again, that really makes me question my.mind.
Maybe i need more practice but still, it hurts a bit.
@Barkingpuppy it's not an uncommon thing to do struggle that way. something to be aware of and be ready to take a pause, reflect and logic your way through to the best response. emotions can make people jump to decisions/keep doing things that aren't always the best choice.
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Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@OlderSometimesWiser yes i know but can everyone be an ahole? I've encountered more aholes than kind in relation to how i do things
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Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@OlderSometimesWiser thank you. My mother amso struggles with math and science. I do as well but actually chose the sciences to majornin and struggling. Definitely want to try an assessment
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