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Do I have brain damage?

I've always had some math challenges and when it comes to card games, I avoid them. However, I try to train my brain with crossword puzzles, study chess ( haven’t played it yet) and violin ( beginner to mid level) . Yet, I'm still challenged.

Last night I had an embarassing moment. I met someone on a popular dating site, long distance and we've been talking for over a month. Maybe it was a test, my mother and friend sees it that way but the guy asked me to play ro..blox. We're in our 30s but he's two years younger.

I tried the games for the first time, sadly I couldn’t maneuver the screen properly so I couldn’t jump and kept dying. We tried a scary circus game, snowboarding, matching four balls game, snowboarding and i passed only the boxing and spelling game. After everything he kept exclaiming " kids can do this," "he's never seen anything like this before," "I'm different.....", " a grandma." At one point after the games ended and there was a standstill in our online conversation, I was watching a funny video and said " this is ridiculous. " He then shouted " you are ridiculous!" This kindof hurt because...what?
And instead of leaving the dumb conversation i stayed and asked him if me not being able to play is a dealbreaker.

He only went on to say how I lack:

dexterity of fingers
Quick thinking
Multi-tasking skills
Iffy on communication skills

He struggled to speak on my good points.

I alao had this weird feelig since lately, and started asking him if he has female friends abroad ( he doesn't prefer women from his country) and he said yes....then said how questions like that can be read as " weird " and not to be asked in his country. Had to ask though cause he's always talking about In.....donesia and the Ph.....illipines etc.

When i told this to my friend, she was upset, wanting to know why I stayed in the convo etc.

I'm thinking about getting myself asessed cause no way I can be this slow. I stuggle with social skills, etc and couldn't even maintain my long-term relationship in the past.

Other things have happened too in our convo, where he would ask if he could give his dog some fish sticks, I gave him my advice then started talking about what dogs can't eat, he cut me off by saying he knows that!

Previous conversations days ago he said i was out of his league but last night he was unkind in regards to my slow behavior.
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Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@dirge what
@Barkingpuppy it's one of those cyclical thought processes for me - first blush, no. clearly not. it's just not something you've spent as much time on, developed the skills for, you're in an unexpected situation and getting pressured, perhaps not handling it as well as you could and certainly not as well as he expects (which is also a very weird thing for him to be doing - placing this sort of expectation on you. particularly as a first date/meetup sort of thing).

but that you don't recognize all of this on your own and wonder/worry about/ask people/try to improve when he's pulled you into his little world of specialized skills - which on its own could be great, but not even trying vaguely to meet you part way or welcome/help/teach/improve you in any way with these things he likes to do and consider it a shortcoming/physical damage/flaw in your own brain kinda brings me back to a 'yeah, well. maybe.'
Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@dirge ha. I'm not good with the social skills, i can pick up on stuff yes. Like i know he was being awful but when caught in such situations, I just freeze.

And it's the fact that these awkward stuff will happen to me now and again, that really makes me question my.mind.

Maybe i need more practice but still, it hurts a bit.
@Barkingpuppy it's not an uncommon thing to do struggle that way. something to be aware of and be ready to take a pause, reflect and logic your way through to the best response. emotions can make people jump to decisions/keep doing things that aren't always the best choice.