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Do I have brain damage?

I've always had some math challenges and when it comes to card games, I avoid them. However, I try to train my brain with crossword puzzles, study chess ( haven’t played it yet) and violin ( beginner to mid level) . Yet, I'm still challenged.

Last night I had an embarassing moment. I met someone on a popular dating site, long distance and we've been talking for over a month. Maybe it was a test, my mother and friend sees it that way but the guy asked me to play ro..blox. We're in our 30s but he's two years younger.

I tried the games for the first time, sadly I couldn’t maneuver the screen properly so I couldn’t jump and kept dying. We tried a scary circus game, snowboarding, matching four balls game, snowboarding and i passed only the boxing and spelling game. After everything he kept exclaiming " kids can do this," "he's never seen anything like this before," "I'm different.....", " a grandma." At one point after the games ended and there was a standstill in our online conversation, I was watching a funny video and said " this is ridiculous. " He then shouted " you are ridiculous!" This kindof hurt because...what?
And instead of leaving the dumb conversation i stayed and asked him if me not being able to play is a dealbreaker.

He only went on to say how I lack:

dexterity of fingers
Quick thinking
Multi-tasking skills
Iffy on communication skills

He struggled to speak on my good points.

I alao had this weird feelig since lately, and started asking him if he has female friends abroad ( he doesn't prefer women from his country) and he said yes....then said how questions like that can be read as " weird " and not to be asked in his country. Had to ask though cause he's always talking about In.....donesia and the Ph.....illipines etc.

When i told this to my friend, she was upset, wanting to know why I stayed in the convo etc.

I'm thinking about getting myself asessed cause no way I can be this slow. I stuggle with social skills, etc and couldn't even maintain my long-term relationship in the past.

Other things have happened too in our convo, where he would ask if he could give his dog some fish sticks, I gave him my advice then started talking about what dogs can't eat, he cut me off by saying he knows that!

Previous conversations days ago he said i was out of his league but last night he was unkind in regards to my slow behavior.
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JollyRoger · 70-79, M
I think your conversation with this "guy' was well worth your time and effort. WHY?

Well...you found out many things ao about his personality that he had hidden from you previously. You (according to your account) found that he thinks he's more intelligent and smarter than you - yes, having intellihence is different from being smart. I'm not saying that he is either of those, but he thinks he is.
Secondly, don't judge yourself based on some games and tools that you haven't used before....everyone (even him) has to understand and practise - it's called learning, and he prejudged you unfairly.
Thirdly, not all people are adept at the skills required to manipulate some equipment...That's why we need tradespeople in our society- to do specialized jobs for us...AND fourthly...you have other skills that you were using in your conversations with him: skills like personal engagement, friendship, kindness, willingness to try something challenging....and probably other important social skills that he obviously needs, otherwise he would be seeking women he could socialize with rather than hiding in a room somewhere in a foteign country.
You therefore are fortunate to have found out what he is truly worth and now you can use this experience when you converse with other men. I guarantee you that we are not all so demeaning, self-centered and close-minded as this 'little boy' who does not value women as people.
Barkingpuppy · 31-35, FNew
@JollyRoger omg. Thank you!!🥰🥰🥰🥰