You know what? You don't have to pretend to be interested in another. You don't have to put any effort to listen...

you don't even have to try to be more understanding and reach for common ground...you can simply move towards what interests you and find others that share some similar interests and ways of approaching them...
I am thinking of it as i question myself why am i having no friends and why am i not being a good friend. Because i'm far from my tribe. I mean, yes, i believe that we are all one and we can all befriend each other and be joyful but at this very moment i miss a tribe..

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sspec

You know what?
Some users here are more at ease when they are on their own. Not everyone who logs in here needs a friend to confide in. A few just join in to be distant well wishers and smile with others to leave without leaving traces.

elafina · 36-40, F

@sspec i was referring more to real life friends.. but it's true that some enjoy the solo ride, and I am one of them, but at the same time I have periods that I wish I would have friends to share it..

sspec

@elafina I had friends in mind - whichever world they belong to.

SW-User

True, and I don't put this effort at any level beyond the surface.
I'm also in that position of missing the tribe I fit with.

elafina · 36-40, F

@SW-User well i am tired of being a stretched bridge that isn't even working properly
i think within the proper environment, to blossom would be only natural and not a struggle .. ?

SW-User

@elafina I think that you think right and I love the way you phrase it - 'within the proper environment, to blossom would be only natural and not a struggle'.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

All true .... Do what you enjoy and then look around at those people doing the same... They're the potential pool of friends ..

elafina · 36-40, F

@ozgirl512 i wrote another post talking again about friendship and compatibility and someone commented "look for the sparkle in their eyes when they talk about things" Now i am thinking, how nice when this sparkle can be shared..

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

@elafina it's a nice thought... Finding someone that thinks like you and has the same end goals as you is not easy... But that's not the same as impossible ... It's easy to wallow in the mud and be the same as everyone else...

Stark

This is beautiful ❤️ thanks for sharing because I can relate to this so much. Definitely saved this

elafina · 36-40, F

@Stark 🤗

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

I understand this too well but at the same time I believe there's no such thing as my tribe.

elafina · 36-40, F

@CrazyMusicLover maybe a tribe of passengers..

Mindful · 56-60, F

Well written, I enjoyed reading this.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

For sure. There’s a huge difference between a friendly acquaintance, someone who I enjoy grabbing drinks with to catch up, and a couple of best friends I have. I think there’s always room for a degree of connection, but that doesn’t mean we’ll be best friends with everybody.

Boleuskas · M

Yup

checkoutanytime · M

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