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how do you tell someone you don’t want to hook up anymore when the real reason is because you aren’t attracted to them

or is the best answer just to disappear into the ether 👻
deadteddy · F Best Comment
They gave you the ick? 😂
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@deadteddy YES YOU GET IT

ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@Chernobylplaygrounds i’m worried i’ll hurt his feelings 😔
@ginnyfromtheblock you'll hurt them even more by ghosting him
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@Chernobylplaygrounds is that true? i think letting them draw their own conclusions might be merciful when the alternative is making them feel inferior
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@KiwiBird hahahah he’s not so bad just not my thing
Gaiia · F
I'd tell them I'm not into them..
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@Gaiia in those words?
Gaiia · F
@ginnyfromtheblock id tell them I like him as a friend, that I'm not interested in having sex with them. Most people deal okay with those things, if he doesn't it's not your fault either, he could insist though. That often happens.
Rambler · M
say you're not ready for any person place or thing to try to pull the reins in on you

which may or may not make any sense but it gives you time to get away
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@Rambler hahaha oh this is a genius idea, i appreciate it
Rambler · M
gotta do what you gotta do @ginnyfromtheblock
Just keep saying no.. Sooner or later they'll take the hint 😉
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@Onestarlitnight haha i will leave a trail of breadcrumbs
If you want to stop, just stop :v
Just say, I don't want to anymore

His options:

1. Respect that
2. Not respect that

Just say it v_v
If he says why, teach him thst you're being nice and that this simply won't continue. Tell him to invest his search elsewhere and to kot waste another moment
SarithBorn · 18-21, M
Being honest is gonna cause hurt to that person ego and confidence, but ghosting is pretty cruel too... i'd say you're screwed either way. 🤔
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@SarithBorn that’s what i’m sayinggggg
SarithBorn · 18-21, M
@ginnyfromtheblock Well i wish you luck 😇
DoubleRings · 46-50, F
If they are just fwb, tell them youre moving toward a more serious or at least official relatnsp with someone else.
Pretend to have suddenly gone asexual. That way you break it off and don't hurt them
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@nothereforpeople i don’t think anyone would bye that 😭
DiegoWolfe · 36-40
you tell them that you got into a relationship and you are being loyal so you cant meet up and beat the meat
Luciana · 18-21, F
Why were you hooking up with someone you wasn't attracted to?
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@Luciana i was in the moment but i’m not anymore… attraction evolves over time, you know
eMortal · M
You’re gonna have to cut all ties. If you stay, you’ll hook up again in your weak moments.
My dog died so now I have to grieve for a year in solitude. Bye
Khenpal1 · M
be nice and move on.
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@Khenpal1 be nice how 😭
Khenpal1 · M
@ginnyfromtheblock "Cosmic humor evolves, from jokes that indicate you don’t take your personality seriously, ha ha ha the joke is on you! 😉
DavidScott · 51-55, M
I'll tell them for you for $5
BigImo · 22-25, F
You tell them exactly that
Is there pizza in the ether? 🤔
Honesty is best.
Newfound1 · M
Just say "no mo"
caccoon · 36-40
This is a hard one. Ghosting is shitty as well but sometimes easier for both parties.
Gaiia · F
@caccoon I find ghosting worse always. 😣😣😣😣 The other person stays hanging there... Confused.
uncalled4 · 51-55, M
That's a tough one.
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@uncalled4 i know 😭
ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M
The truth hurts but it's the better way for both
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@ShenaniganFoodie how does him getting hurt benefit him
ShenaniganFoodie · 36-40, M
@ginnyfromtheblock He does not get his hopes up & appreciates your honesty
MethDozer · M
When you find the answer please let me know. I didn't even hook up with them ffs.
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@MethDozer i’m so sorry but i think she might be your soulmate
MethDozer · M
iamonfire696 · 36-40, F
I think you should tell him. It’s going to hurt either way but if it’s something he’s done it’s better if you tell him so he can not do it the next time around with another woman.
Wait why did u hook up in the 1st place lol
ginnyfromtheblock · 22-25, F
@Darksideinthenight2 has your attraction to someone never declined over time?
@ginnyfromtheblock hmm it depends if they totally changed their appearance or attitude.

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