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Living Alone.

My wife has been in care now for a couple of months and the shock is wearing off. She is getting the best possible care, which the kids and I have fine tuned for her to be as content as she can be and have the best available. So my Husband/Family stuff is done. The visitng routine is established and it all works..
Now I am facing the idea of whats next..Rearranging the living to suit me. And the idea of it "suiting me" is one I havent examined in fifty years..The family helped me clear the hoarding out of the downstairs master suite, and I have ordered a new shower enclosure to replace the "designer" one that never worked.. So I can live on the ground level and dodge the stairs..Not that its a problem.. But if I should fall, no one will be there. I am disposing of pantry items I am never going to use. (Does one person really need two large 2 door fridges and a mother in law sized chest freezer?)
I expressed this sense of "aloneness" to my daughter and her solution was "get a dog"..I am a dog person and growing up the kids had dogs in the house.. But she is missing my point..I am not lonely..I have a lifetime of memories and I am content. Its just that I am finding my feet like a kid who just left home for the first time and need to work out what my personal priorities are. Because I am not used to it being about me..I wont be getting a dog just yet..I would like a dog.. But winter is coming.. And those late night dog walks in the wind and rain are something I am not ready for just yet..😷
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LadyBronte · 56-60, F
You will find your footing, and your way, in your own time. There is no hurry - no rush to make changes, decisions. There is no set standards to follow or mandatory feelings to feel. It is new territory - for you all. None of you have ever been here before, so be kind...to yourself, and to family, who sometimes might not understand your needs and actions. I am sorry that your wife has been ill for so long and that you weren't able to share advetures or normal home life routines together. Sending prayer that your transition will be a smooth one.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@LadyBronte Thank you Lady Bronte. The sun will rise tomorrow and i will put one foot in front of the other..😷
LadyBronte · 56-60, F
@whowasthatmaskedman That is all we can do.