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Living Alone.

My wife has been in care now for a couple of months and the shock is wearing off. She is getting the best possible care, which the kids and I have fine tuned for her to be as content as she can be and have the best available. So my Husband/Family stuff is done. The visitng routine is established and it all works..
Now I am facing the idea of whats next..Rearranging the living to suit me. And the idea of it "suiting me" is one I havent examined in fifty years..The family helped me clear the hoarding out of the downstairs master suite, and I have ordered a new shower enclosure to replace the "designer" one that never worked.. So I can live on the ground level and dodge the stairs..Not that its a problem.. But if I should fall, no one will be there. I am disposing of pantry items I am never going to use. (Does one person really need two large 2 door fridges and a mother in law sized chest freezer?)
I expressed this sense of "aloneness" to my daughter and her solution was "get a dog"..I am a dog person and growing up the kids had dogs in the house.. But she is missing my point..I am not lonely..I have a lifetime of memories and I am content. Its just that I am finding my feet like a kid who just left home for the first time and need to work out what my personal priorities are. Because I am not used to it being about me..I wont be getting a dog just yet..I would like a dog.. But winter is coming.. And those late night dog walks in the wind and rain are something I am not ready for just yet..😷
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Rickichickie · 61-69, F
That sounds like a challenge and it needs time to get used to the new situation.
Do you miss your wife or can you cope with being alone? It sounds like you're ok with it.
whowasthatmaskedman · 70-79, M
@Rickichickie I am getting used to coping.. I was quite solitary before I met my wife, so she taught me to "family" as it were. Both children of migrant parents its only us and our kids here. So I am not lonely as such. Plus her dementia was something i have been dealing with myself since before covid. And she wasnt an easy person even before..But the tipping point came when i just didnt have enough left to manage her 24/7 and my kids stepped up after the family Christmas dinner.. In summary, I am not lonely. I am just not used to the peace the quiet and the freedom to make my own plans..😷
Rickichickie · 61-69, F
@whowasthatmaskedman it's good that you have children to support you and it helps to know that your wife is in good care.