is the best way to get through life is to have an 'attitude' with people

like stop being nice and just have an attitude and if someone confronts you on it, say' yeah? whatchu gonna do about it then?'.

i was thinking if you was like that would you command more respect and wouldn't get as affected by what people do, as if you were if you were sensitive as a person?

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

I think it's about finding yourself and being confident as him/her.

Nice without backbone = doormat.

It is about being strong enough that you know how to be kind. It's about being smart enough, you know not to be arrogant. It's about being humble but knowing when to bravely and wisely put your foot down and bring down people who steps over the line. It's about teaching people how to act around you, and knowing it's not worth your time to stay around those who do not have it in themselves to treat you right even after you teach them how. It's about knowing you have the final say on who you are and knowing that your real competition is the current version of yourself, that all you have to focus on is improving you so that other's opinion will matter only if it helps you grow to be the person you want to be (AND not the person society makes you feel you have to be.)
It's about knowing your target is who you want to become and about giving your very best to be him/her, that other people's ridicules or negativities won't even have an effect on you.

So no, it isn't attitude. It's more than that. It's mindset and a choice of strength you have to choose every moment of every day. It's a habit.

But then, I myself, am still learning how to live. :)

pentagrammom

@Casheyane your opinion is yours and only yours, enjoy, personally I do not seek outside confirmation agreement or approval, one basic message each day, a good day wish.

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@pentagrammom Why are you even in my comment?

That is the point. It is MY comment. If you don't agree, you can go move on and block. My feed will be better for it. Thanks.

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

@pentagrammom Hey. Reading this again, I think I might have misread the tone of your message the first time. If it wasn't an attack as I initially thought, I do apologize. I've just had enough of trolls and haters lately.

Also, not to be mean, but the use of proper punctuation marks could really make the tone of a message. If wrongly used, it could leave the wrong impression. So yeah. Just caution.