I think it's about finding yourself and being confident as him/her.
Nice without backbone = doormat.
It is about being strong enough that you know how to be kind. It's about being smart enough, you know not to be arrogant. It's about being humble but knowing when to bravely and wisely put your foot down and bring down people who steps over the line. It's about teaching people how to act around you, and knowing it's not worth your time to stay around those who do not have it in themselves to treat you right even after you teach them how. It's about knowing you have the final say on who you are and knowing that your real competition is the current version of yourself, that all you have to focus on is improving you so that other's opinion will matter only if it helps you grow to be the person you want to be (AND not the person society makes you feel you have to be.)
It's about knowing your target is who you want to become and about giving your very best to be him/her, that other people's ridicules or negativities won't even have an effect on you.
So no, it isn't attitude. It's more than that. It's mindset and a choice of strength you have to choose every moment of every day. It's a habit.
But then, I myself, am still learning how to live. :)
