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Come to terms with yourself. [media=Good one for us : Sylvia Plath, 'Mirror': “Now I am a lake. A woman bends over me, Searching my reaches for what she really is.” That image is haunting; a person staring into a reflection, hoping it will reveal who they are. But mirrors don’t offer meaning. They can’t reflect your values, your fears, your emotional depth. At best, they offer a curated shell. At worst, a distorted obsession. This isn’t about rejecting beauty. It’s about not stopping there. We are told to invest in skincare, gym memberships, supplements, outfits, cosmetics, filters. But how much time do we spend investing in emotional intelligence? In deep friendships? In understanding our wounds, or building a stable sense of self-worth that doesn’t crumble with a pimple or a bad photo? Psychology shows that people who rely on external validation, especially through appearance, tend to suffer more from anxiety and low self-esteem. Because when you build your value on what’s seen, it only takes one silent room or one aging wrinkle to feel like you’re nothing. Meanwhile, investing in your emotional life; your curiosity, resilience, self-awareness, boundaries, compassion, creates stability. When your value doesn’t live in the mirror, it’s not so fragile. You stop performing, and start connecting. We are not just bodies to be seen. We are stories, contradictions, longings, and quiet truths. And those don’t show up in a selfie. Plath ends her poem with a stark image: “In me she has drowned a young girl, and in me an old woman Rises toward her day after day, like a terrible fish.” If we only invest in our surface, what happens when time changes that surface? Who do we become when beauty fades? What’s left if we never built anything deeper? Let’s be clear: we deserve to feel attractive and emotionally secure. Desired and understood. We don’t need to stop polishing the outside, we need to stop neglecting the inside. Invest in your face, your health, your style. But also invest in relationships, in silence, in reflection. Read, write, create, confront, forgive, connect. Because one day, the mirror will stop telling you who you are. And you’ll need to know for yourself.]
