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My father has made it clear that I am not permitted to get the oil changed in my car.

I am 600 miles overdue for a change, but he says we can't afford it. So I guess I can't drive.

I canceled the writing group I go to every Thursday night, and a date I had tomorrow that I was excited about, but afraid to say anything about for this very reason. Tried to cancel my doctor's appointment tomorrow, but I couldn't get a hold of my doctor, so I guess I'll have to drive to that and take a chance on my engine not blowing.

The topper to all this? My dad won't believe me that it's critical to change the oil. He wants me to get an expert opinion. Because my opinion isn't good enough.

It doesn't matter. Nothing does. Nothing but what he wants matters. We can't even pay our trash bill, because he won't let us. We've been burning trash in the front yard like some kind of hillbillies. He doesn't care. And just now, when I told him that, he had the sheer audacity to ask me why I'm persecuting him.

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robertsnj · 56-60, M

I am glad you decide not to drive it anyway. i am for your situation / sounds very rural where you based on "burning trash in the front yard"

cars have an expensive upkeep to them -in that way living in a county without a descent public transportation is brutal if you do not have the income to manage that upkeep.

with your dad and his age he needs an auto for medical emergencies ---maybe that is a better way to position this to him.

LordShadowfire · 46-50, MVIP

@robertsnj We're not exactly rural. Suburban, more like. And we're going to get caught burning trash sooner or later. This is all because he won't pay the trash bill.

robertsnj · 56-60, M

@LordShadowfire that is a horrible update. you will inherit a lot of legal trouble when you do get caught.

ArishMell · 70-79, M

We cannot know if your family genuinely is poor or if your father is just a selfish skinflint, but it is lack of oil that will cause an engine to seize.

"Expert opinion"? Yes - a garage! This sort of reads as if you can afford to run a car, pay your doctor, and so on; so go ahead.

It will still run on old oil but if left long enough it will wear more rapidly as the oil become degraded and the oil-filter becomes clogged. (You need change the filter as well as the oil, at the same time.)

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HumanEarth · F

We do it. We filter used oil and mix it used gasoline and use it as diesel fuel and other stuff. But we also have a farm and go though motor oil a lot more than the average user to.

Punches · 46-50, F

@HumanEarth If.
It works then great. But it is not something I would recommend.

HumanEarth · F

@Punches It's okay, its not for everybody. Its work

Punches · 46-50, F

Even if you are running conventional oil (3000 mile life), 600 miles overdue is nothing.
Do not cancel things, your car will be fine.

How many miles since last change and is it conventional or synthetic?

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JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

@Punches true just make sure your oul is enough

Punches · 46-50, F

@JimboSaturn Yeah I do my synthetic around 8,000 miles.

JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

@Punches ph I do 8000 km

LordShadowfire · 46-50, MVIP

Okay, so I'm not canceling all the stuff I had planned tomorrow. And I think Dad finally understands how important it is.

Punches · 46-50, F

@LordShadowfire 3,000 is the low end of the mileage, of course shops push that figure cause they want to make more money.

HumanEarth · F

What's wrong with being a Hillbilly or a Redneck?

What you're 46-50 years and you can't change your own oil?

I think you need pick up a maintenance manual for your car or watch YouTube.

Nothing wrong with being broke and busted

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Punches · 46-50, F

@LordShadowfire I though you and her didn't exactly agree on things but it seems you two found common ground. 🙂

This is a touching moment. 🥹 I do not know to laugh or cry.

HumanEarth · F

At least both of us laughed at your comment. Actually LordShadowfire is not a bad person, we're both just stubborn and won't give in.

Punches · 46-50, F

@HumanEarth Oh, yeah.
Him and I have had our share of cussing matches.

He finally accepted the fact that i'm always right. 😄

Diotrephes · 70-79, M

@LordShadowfire You are supposed to be a fully grown man. Why are you letting your father treat you like you are a toddler?

Jenny1234 · 56-60, F

Change it anyway. It’s a necessity

JimboSaturn · 56-60, M

You can't afford not to get an oil change

LordShadowfire · 46-50, MVIP

@JimboSaturn This is what I keep telling him.

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