Random thought of the day

What i hate about love and relationships in general is eventually one way or another it is going to change and end. I've seen it plenty of times in the military to come home to family and friendships that are just a shell. To face the words that ill always love you or we will always be friends time and time again to not be true. And its like damn i know i should have tried harder to keep these bonds fresh and strong and for whatever reason i didn't and i let things go. Trying to right those wrong and rebuild what once was just to have no effort from the other because they moved on in life already. Not that they hate or even dislike me just what is important has changed and to no fault of their own an after thought is just an after thought. When i was young i use to think i was so strong because i could go through life alone without anyone to lose. Loneliness can be very painful and damaging in its own right, but now i know loving means to eventually let go forever and that is harder than never having.

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OlderSometimesWiser · F

It all comes down to whether one agrees with the words of Alfred Tennyson who wrote, “'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

Rokan · 36-40, M

@OlderSometimesWiser i think his words are childish because they completely ignore human psychology about basic human needs to he happy and healthy. We need love to be happy and healthy and without it we see mental health conditions that pop up.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Rokan You’ve misinterpreted his words. Tis BETTER to have loved is exactly what he’s saying.

Rokan · 36-40, M

@OlderSometimesWiser i didnt misinterpreted anything. To lose love and to never have love are two coins of the same thing in the effects of damage to mental health. His words are flawed entirely the whole second half to his quote is unnecessary. Simply change it to we humans are social animals and need each other to love. His words speak only to a flame not to love as a whole.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Rokan

Loneliness can be very painful and damaging in its own right, but now i know loving means to eventually let go forever and that is harder than never having

Lol….. your own words. Loving means letting go forever (loved and lost) which is harder than never having loved (never to have loved at all.)

Your decision on his words. You disagree with them. You feel loving and losing is harder. That’s the point of my original reply.

Rokan · 36-40, M

@OlderSometimesWiser im not speaking on what is harder when it comes to his quote. Im speaking on what is or isn't more beneficial. It may be harder to have lost a loved one than it is to never have loved, but not having love in a person life is just as detrimental to mental health. His quote says it is better to have loved then not loved but if the end result is to be without love its still being in a just as bad of a metal health situation.

His quote speaks to a lover not to the love of a father, mother, sibling, freind etc... it ignores the importance of a wholistic system of love and focuses on just a lovers love which is a childish incomplete understanding of love.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Rokan Lol….. I tried. Have a nice day. 🙂

Rokan · 36-40, M

@OlderSometimesWiser i didnt ask you to and you have a great day too