Do you still spend time on things and people you don't like if you aren't obligated to deal with them? Or do you just outright ignore and skip?

@being It is. But then it is not easy to do in all situations admittedly. At work for instance. No matter how tired we are, sometimes we just can't quit.

Or with family, when they need us, we can't very well say we won't show up no matter how we feel like running away sometimes.

Sometimes it is easier to act like yourself around strangers when they don't need you or don't have expectations.

@Casheyane we won't be perfect but we still need to daily strive to be real and authentic and love no matter what. Real love comes from authenticity.
Of course we need to be patient, to have some amount of tolerance.
But too much of it and it grows into resentment.

@being What if you can't quit? Because no one can handle when you're authentic. Because the ones who need you aren't willing to do the deed so you couldn't be free.

@Casheyane there are lots of things you can do, always.
One is, in order to not disturb harmony, to go slow. Small victories of authenticity. Small "No, today I need to tend to this x, but will do tomorrow." Softer things.. and once you gain some more control, then from a healthier place you see the next thing.
But these small steps need be consistent.

A minute of break before making the next choice too helps.

I don't know if I offer any value here, I can't tell.