I need help with this: If I don’t think about my neighbor I think about death and ppl I love dying and so I think about my neighbor except i know I’ve

Thought about my neighbor everyday for the passed 10years and that sounds crazy. And I don’t want to think about them bc they’re never gonna be anything more than just my neighbor, but when I decide not to think about them my brain goes to death or negative thoughts. Thinking about my neighbor keeps me positive but I need to move on I can’t keep thinking about them for the rest of my life. Are there any mental exercises I could do to untrain my brain from thinking about them and then also automatically go to thoughts about death???

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Greenry · 46-50, M

What specifically do you think about when you think about them? Was it the kindness they showed you? Or something else?

MissNoahLenFoxx · 31-35, F

@Greenry We were lovers for many years.. on and off and on and off again and again etc for many years…. Only recently has he became closer (my neighbor) but also farther (dating many women who are not me)… I shouldnt conduct my life around him anymore - I love him- but I know I should learn to live without him..

Greenry · 46-50, M

@MissNoahLenFoxx that makes sense now. I’m sorry you’re hurting and letting go is the best option in this case.

Blackie · 51-55, M

@MissNoahLenFoxx I dont think you love him. I believe you have an infatuation with him, which is often misconstrued as being love. You need to occupy your time and thoughts on other things but mostly another person. Once you find other things to occupy your mind you'll see the want for him diminish.