How would you react if your woman surprised you with a abortion?

How would you feel if you were sleeping with a steady girlfriend for a year, everything was going great, moved in together, and one day you get back and see her sleeping early in bed. You crawl in under the covers and start running your fingers along her hips, and she lovingly rolls away from you, turning her back saying "Not tonight honey, I just had a abortion" and then falls asleep like nothing just happened.

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Caleidoscope · F

I mean its her body and unless you have a ‘legal’ right on her ,you shouldn’t expect to know what she does to her body (outside the bedroom)whether its an abortion or regularly taking prescribed drugs.
Having said that ,there must be a trust issue that she has over you ,thats why she never told you in the first place .Way more serious than just an abortion .

Tiredish · 41-45, F

@Caleidoscope Agree with you.
So her body her choice then.

If she has the baby and expects him to pay, is it his wallet, his choice? It is his choice, and not her money. However she does have the choice to abort or not without him having a say.

Her body, her choice = pro choice
His wallet, his choice = pro choice

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Caleidoscope · F

@TexasDudeokay, Assuming she didn’t abort and gave birth to a child and after a few months or years (chances are few) but if they break up and separate?who’s responsibility will it be then ?His wallet ,her wallet ?
or the child will be left with a trauma that most children go through ?
or the parents ,will leave their own search for a partner and half rear a child with half values and ethics only to grow up in a hostile environment?

All I am saying is a child needs a family and unless there’s that support,both of then should take a call .

TexasDude · 31-35, M

@Caleidoscope Nothing you said justifies killing an innocent baby. You can't kill someone based on "what if." Lots of people suffer in this life, some horribly but we can't know that before birth. And if you are alive things can get better...they can't if you are dead