Disorganized Attachment.

I think i need to leave SW again. I've overstayed my welcome here... that's the thought I had before realizing that this is something I need to manage.

This mindset can turn into a form of self-sabotage, causing the disorganized adult to end a relationship prematurely.

https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/disorganized-attachment/

I think i might be self sabotaging my relationship with my wife...

...fuck

Idk how to stop this

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PinkMoon · 26-30, F

Have you shared this article with your wife?

SW-User

@PinkMoon idk that i could make myself that vulnerable

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

@SW-User I took it and then sent my boyfriend the link and asked him to take it too. After he got his results he looked it up on youtube to learn more about it and sent me a video about it and I sent him a video about my attachment style. It's brought us closer because we have an understanding of ourselves and each other we didn't have before.

Send your wife the quizz and ask her to take it and when she's done swap results. That way you're both being vulnerable.

Your attachment style isn't a judgement on your character but an explanation of it. Your wife is probably blaming herself for things your caregivers caused. That context can change everything,for both of you. Also it is important for you to know that information about her too.

Bite the bullet and let your guard down because this information can save your marriage.