Are you self aware enough to know when you are the problem

In your life? You are whats holding you back, you are whats stopping yourself from getting better
Your stubborness, self pitying, inability to take on any advice, your guardedness and self loathing.

Ive talked with many people who werent aware or just in denial that theyre the problem with their life. They were all so busy blaming everyone else for their problems. I never wanted to point it out directly as to not offend or upset them. It is very frustrating. Trying to get through to someone who has no self awareness.

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SomeMichGuy · M

Good post.

I think that the root problem is that we all like to be the heroes of our life stories, and so people tend to

• boost the importance of what they've done
• over-emphasize their successes (even if marginal or not really much of anything)
• link themselves to important/high-profile events, ppl, etc.

and

• soft-pedal help they got, how simple something was, etc.
• under-emphasize their failures or always paint themselves as the valiant heroes being assailed by a sea of troubles (always caused by others), even if all evidence points to them
• distance themselves from any other failures, etc.

And

[i][b]It is hardest to see ONESELF clearly, because we sit only in our own heads, so we have inherently selfish points of view, and make excuses for ourselves ALL THE TIME.[/b][/i]

If you can look at yourself honestly, and see the good and the bad, you are blessed. 😊