How can you stop yourself from being someone's doormat?

I love this person so much and I'm always there for her and empathize with her every step of the way. But when I'm down, she seemed like she doesn't care at all. I am always available for her but that's not her case for me.

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SW-User

Realize that you aren’t doing that person any favor that way. It’s actually a disservice to her that will ruin your friendship.

CallistaSloane · 26-30, F

@SW-User Yup. I think so, too. Smothering her with attention is not really a good idea. But the thing is, she's my best friend. I care about her a lot even in the mildest of her problems. It just hurts that I don't get the same energy from her.

SW-User

@CallistaSloane Understandable, but her way of showing love and giving is probably very different and might be going unnoticed.

CallistaSloane · 26-30, F

@SW-User she does things for me, no doubt. But many times, I feel so alone even when I'm with her.I thought our personalities are just different. I had thought that for years. But she knew how hurt I was feeling everytime she puts on a cold shoulder. She'll change at first. Then go back to her ways. It's draining.