Am I selfish or not knowing if I want children?

I’m in my mid twenties and have been told I should start thinking about children by my partners parents. They have one grandchild who without been harsh, they don’t shut up about it, every conversation has the child involved even if it isn’t remotely about it!

Me and my partner aren’t fussed if we have kids or not and both are quite impulsive and like to do what we want, I feel bad for not knowing if I want them, and feel slightly like I’ll be looked down on if I don’t.
I’m fed up of all the baby talk it drives me mad!

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ElwoodBlues · M

You are [b]NOT[/b] selfish. Having kids is a personal decision and its no one else's business. It's also a [b]huge[/b] commitment, the biggest you'll ever make. It's also rather expensive. Don't rush it; it sounds like you'll have 5 or 6 years to make up your mind.

Having said all that, my wife & I decided to have kids in our 30's and it's far and away the most rewarding thing in our lives. Gave up a ton of freedom and spontaneity, poured tons of money into child rearing, and I wouldn't change a thing. I guess what I'm really saying here is this: if you decide, then decide whole-hog. Being half-assed about it would be the biggest mistake.