How is a person who makes us feel safe?
Most are aware of what a creepy behavior is. But let's talk about what the opposite is. How is a person who makes you feel safe.
Take my boyfriend for example. If someone said "Excuse me a woman here feels you're making her uncomfortable" He would tell the woman or the other person he's sorry and ask if he can do anything to make her feel comfortable. Maybe even leave.
He walks on the opposite side of the road so he don't end up behind women and scare them when they go home from the train station. (He's big and buffed often dress in dark) so he has to be careful to not come off as a threat.
When a man was harassing a friend of ours with a sexist comment he told that man calm but steady that it's not ok to say those things. No need to start fist fights or play the macho hero. It only makes everyone uncomfortable.
This is common sense to him. To show respect and empathy for women who are daily harassed and threatened by people of his gender. If you have a choice, make a choice of being someone who others feel safe around because that's a rare character in this world.
I'm myself trying to think what makes other comfortable around me. My size or gender is not much of a threat, (a short petite girl) but my words can be. As younger I thought that how others interpret me is their choice but with aging I have felt that I also have a responsibility in how I communicate.
Take my boyfriend for example. If someone said "Excuse me a woman here feels you're making her uncomfortable" He would tell the woman or the other person he's sorry and ask if he can do anything to make her feel comfortable. Maybe even leave.
He walks on the opposite side of the road so he don't end up behind women and scare them when they go home from the train station. (He's big and buffed often dress in dark) so he has to be careful to not come off as a threat.
When a man was harassing a friend of ours with a sexist comment he told that man calm but steady that it's not ok to say those things. No need to start fist fights or play the macho hero. It only makes everyone uncomfortable.
This is common sense to him. To show respect and empathy for women who are daily harassed and threatened by people of his gender. If you have a choice, make a choice of being someone who others feel safe around because that's a rare character in this world.
I'm myself trying to think what makes other comfortable around me. My size or gender is not much of a threat, (a short petite girl) but my words can be. As younger I thought that how others interpret me is their choice but with aging I have felt that I also have a responsibility in how I communicate.
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