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Mamapolo2016 · F
I think some of that is real, mostly because most groups try fiercely to resist change. If you represent change, you’re going to get push back.
Personally, I’ve experienced little of that, or I’ve experienced a lot and was oblivious to it. I truly don’t know.
But I do know that while it does happen, the only way to deal with it is to understand a few basic things.
1) The vast majority of people you meet hardly know you’re there. They are focused on their own stuff.
2) pick your battles, and your conflict strategy. A lot of the so-called Karens we see on video probably, at some point, have just cause on a grievance. They just express it in bad ways. They don’t say, “My dog Buffy was critically wounded by a skateboarder and now I hate other people with dogs, their dogs, and skateboarders.” They just throw skateboards into the river and try to coax unleashed dogs into traffic.
3) When possible, follow their rules, even if you don’t agree with them. I’m not suggesting you collaborate with wrong-doing, but if, in your world, people remove their shoes before entering somebody else’s living space, take off your shoes. By recognizing traditions that don’t hurt you, you will be less scary.
4) Other's opinion of you is none of your business. And vice versa. Learn to let it go and don’t internalize it as part of you. Nobody but you knows where you’re coming from or where you’re going, so they don’t have enough evidence for a judgment.
Personally, I’ve experienced little of that, or I’ve experienced a lot and was oblivious to it. I truly don’t know.
But I do know that while it does happen, the only way to deal with it is to understand a few basic things.
1) The vast majority of people you meet hardly know you’re there. They are focused on their own stuff.
2) pick your battles, and your conflict strategy. A lot of the so-called Karens we see on video probably, at some point, have just cause on a grievance. They just express it in bad ways. They don’t say, “My dog Buffy was critically wounded by a skateboarder and now I hate other people with dogs, their dogs, and skateboarders.” They just throw skateboards into the river and try to coax unleashed dogs into traffic.
3) When possible, follow their rules, even if you don’t agree with them. I’m not suggesting you collaborate with wrong-doing, but if, in your world, people remove their shoes before entering somebody else’s living space, take off your shoes. By recognizing traditions that don’t hurt you, you will be less scary.
4) Other's opinion of you is none of your business. And vice versa. Learn to let it go and don’t internalize it as part of you. Nobody but you knows where you’re coming from or where you’re going, so they don’t have enough evidence for a judgment.