I Have Low Self Esteem

Self Esteem Problem... I have had a low self esteem for years now and it's only gotten worse since. Even when I was little, I never really liked myself. My problem started when I was only like 9 years old. I don't know where it came from or why I feel that way about myself. I was bullied, but not horribly that I can remember. However, I can't stand myself. There is literally no one I hate more than myself.

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thatweirdchic

Try this:
Read something in your head & pay attention to the voice you hear (it's probably your own voice)
Notice every time you think you hear that voice. Like "I'm hungry" "what should I wear?" "I wonder.." Ect.
Now notice that every time you have a hateful thought it is that voice like "I look fat" "I'll never win" ect.
The voice is not really you, is your ego.
Pay attention to your individual thoughts and as you hear it shut it up. you can even argue back tell that voice you ARE good enough. You are BEAUTIfUL & SHE is wrong. Tell her to fuck off & get out of your head, you have great things to do.

I know it sounds a little like I'm telling you to go insane & corny but u have to build a relationship with yourself. You can talk in your head, or aloud, in the mirror, or write your self nice notes.
It feels funny and a little awkward and does take some practice but it does help.

Also looking into meditation might help (:

21cookielover21 · 26-30, F

I did try "fighting myself" to put it in simple terms. The problem is, while it works for a short period as soon as I walk way from the mirror, or as soon as it goes away, it just comes right back. Anytime i make a little mistake I hate myself for it. Like way more than I should.

ShadowBugz

You should try to do it continually.
Just accept the mistakes that you make. No one is perfect, but no one completely fails at anything either. I'm sure you're a really good person. :)

thatweirdchic

You have to 'fake it till u make it' be persistent at it until it just feels natural. I know it's harder than it sounds but the more u do it the easier it gets

ShadowBugz

I feel the same as you do.

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