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Learning to love myself

I was almost 40 before I started loving myself. Growing up I would have people telling me that I was pretty but I never believed them. I never felt it. My mind would say what are they seeing? I'm fat, I have a big nose, my lips, eyes, breast are huge! I would hide myself I tried to make myself small but people always noticed me. Being married to a narcissist didn't help my self esteem at all either. 🙃 Then one day it just clicked. I looked in the mirror and said I am beautiful, I love my eyes, nose, lips, breast and weight regardless if anyone else felt the same. My 10 year old grandson recently told me as I was getting dressed "Nana you are so pretty." I looked at him and smiled because I believed him. 🙂 It now saddens me when someone who is actually beautiful doesn't see it for themselves. I was there. Somedays I still struggle but for the most part I am loving me. I put on that top, lipstick and whatever else I want because I am loving myself now!!!

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M Best Comment

The challenge is not to stop loving yourself, even in the more challenging moments.

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@uncalled4 You are so right!

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

@PEACH4LIFE Thanks for BC. I know you know what that is, because you were with a narcissist...kudos for getting out. They're not easy to get rid of, like you gotta call Terminix or something.

Chattermanuk · 46-50, M

Personally i think you are very beautiful, natural and such a warm beautiful women. Glad you found your own loving. I am sure many people have comented how beautiful you are., But its often the biggest step in realising that yourself. Big hugs

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Chattermanuk Awww thanks 😊 Big hugs back! 🤗

Chattermanuk · 46-50, M

@PEACH4LIFE nice and squishy yummy
.thankyou

Lilred2289 · 31-35, F

I’m glad you started loving yourself. You seem like an amazing woman worth the self love!
❤️❤️❤️💐

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Lilred2289 Thank you 😊 I try to treat everyone kind.

Lilred2289 · 31-35, F

@PEACH4LIFE it shows! I need more people like you in my life!! ❤️

agetheweebeast · M

I can't believe you didn't recognize your beauty for so long! It probably made you a better person though in some ways, having said that, I am glad for you that you can enjoy it now x

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@agetheweebeast It really did. I'm enjoying the best of me now. 🤗

Slade · 56-60, M

@PEACH4LIFE That is sooo cool.

Carry on🤗

Maturebate · 70-79, M

Bravely said my dear! Your grandson is correct! You should love yourself and embrace your inner beauty as well as your external. Thankyou for sharing.,

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Maturebate Thank you! I'm learning! 😊

Thereyouare · 56-60, M

I've gotten to know you very well overtime you're a ten on the inside and the outside don't let anybody ever tell you otherwise

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Thereyouare Awww thanks my friend! 😘

MoonlightLullaby · 41-45, F

This is a wonderful thing and you deserve to love yourself. We all do. It took me til my somewhere between 42 & 43 myself!

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@MoonlightLullaby I understand. Yes we all deserve to love ourselves. I'm glad you learned to love yourself. Somedays I struggle but for the most part I love me.

NewRaven · 51-55, F

I’ve been right there with you, including the narcissist ex husband, although I was closer to 45 before I saw it and things clicked. Changing the self talk is super difficult, but has huge payoffs. A lot of help from friends on EP, a lot of internal work, and hearing the lyrics of Pink’s song Perfect all helped to improve that. But you’re right, there are still days. Holler if you ever need to talk.

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@NewRaven Awwww thanks and I'm sending you big hugs! We got this! And if you ever want to talk I'm here for you. 🤗🤗

4meAndyou · F

I am so glad the scales fell from your eyes, and you see yourself as you really are!

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@4meAndyou Thank you. It's still a work in progress but little by little I'm getting there! 🤗

Peachtree · 46-50, F

Not always easy as we get older but you're a beauty! He knows!

JSmith75 · 46-50, M

You are beautiful inside and out

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@JSmith75 Awwww, thank you so much my friend!

Grateful4you · M

Hey there gorgeous, I think I just went straight.

I'm truly grateful you've had this self- realization. Not just the looks, but you obviously have the intellect and insights that are even more attractive. I hope you pursue your education as I think you would make a wonderful counselor or even clinical psych. to help others.

dumasme · 51-55, M

Your grandson has an eye for beauty and gets it right with you. I don't know what goes on in the world of girls as they grow up that makes so many view themselves like you describe.... I see it a lot and it makes me very sad for girls/women who cannot see their own beauty.

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@dumasme Thank you. I know it's so sad but it happens more often than not. But now I'm better. I like what I see.

ineedadrink · 51-55, M

Hiya Peaches. Great post. :-)

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@ineedadrink Hello need a drink! 😉 Thanks! 😊

WonderGirl1

You're beautiful.

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@WonderGirl1 Thank you so much 🤗

pdockal · 56-60, M

Nobody is perfect
Loving yourself is a start to happiness

Having a screwed up partner is horrible but also unfortunately reality

And yes your gorgeous
Glad you figured it out

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@pdockal Thanks my friend! 🤗

JesseInTX · 51-55, M

You are beautiful and I’m so happy things clicked inside your head and heart. Love yourself first and everything else will fall into place 🤗😘

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@JesseInTX Thanks Jessie! 🤗😘

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

WOW
You really are really so so sexy
Love yourself because you deserve it
What a fantastic woman! 😘😘

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Strictmichael75 Thank you so much! 😊

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

@PEACH4LIFE you are welcome
You are so appealing and sexy

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Strictmichael75 🤗

Jimthere4fun

Glad you finally realized that you are beauty and I might add pretty sexy too!!!

Some people go their whole life only seeing their flaws.

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Jimthere4fun Thanks my friend and that's so true!

Justcurious86 · 36-40, M

You should be proud of yourself. You look stunning in that dress

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Justcurious86 Thanks. I'm still learning.

Justcurious86 · 36-40, M

It takes time to build the confidences and will to not let anyone tear you down. Your partners in the past just didn’t appreciate it. They met you with your shoulders down, and you walked like so. Now once your shoulders are picked up and you are walking more confident. Watch their faces when they see what they missed out on. Your a Queen and you should walk like so. Done keep pushing forward @PEACH4LIFE

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Justcurious86 Thank you so much for the pep talk. I will continue to push forward.

nedkelly · 61-69, M

Grandkids are the best, they know that we are special and have different rules at our place 😁

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@nedkelly Oh my gosh yesssss! I have 2 my granddaughter is 5 and she literally thinks she's a princess. 🤣😂🤣 The rules are almost non existent here!

Budwick · 70-79, M

A great back story Peach!
Good for you!
There are many people that could benefit from hearing your story.

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Budwick Thank you. I hope so....

MellyMel22 · F

[i][c=BF0080]Beautiful 🤍

Sadly there are many out there that bring on others’ insecurities. [/c][/i]

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@MellyMel22 that's so true. It happened to me. But I'm learning I hope it doesn't take as long for others.

MellyMel22 · F

@PEACH4LIFE[i][c=BF0080]Same.. I’m sorry you had to deal with it. [/c][/i]

Barefooter25 · 46-50, M

Think positive things about yourself. You are a beautiful person inside and out. 🤗

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Barefooter25 Awww thank you! 🤗

yugimotodm · 26-30, M

Glad to hear you’re learning to love yourself. You’re beautiful

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@yugimotodm Thank you so much!!!

yugimotodm · 26-30, M

@PEACH4LIFE you’re welcome Queen!

ididntknow · 51-55, M

You look gorgeous, love your breasts / cleavage

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@ididntknow Thank you.

ididntknow · 51-55, M

@PEACH4LIFE my pleasure, I hope you share more pics, you look like a sexy lady

SStarfish ·

Well you are cute and you look 20 😅

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@SStarfish Awww thanks. I wished I felt the way I feel now at the age of 20. My life would've been so different.

SStarfish ·

Aww yeah well better late than never eh? 😅@PEACH4LIFE

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@SStarfish Right!!! 😂

Strict4u · 56-60, M

You are very beautiful with a great smile keep smiling

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Strict4u Thank you! I will.

SoLeRiMix · 31-35, M

You're a pretty woman without a doubt.🌹😇❤️

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@SoLeRiMix Awwww thank you so much my friend! ❤️

SoLeRiMix · 31-35, M

@PEACH4LIFE You're welcome.😇

carpediem · 61-69, M

Your grandson is right. Smart kid....and observant

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@carpediem He's such a sweetheart. Thank you!!!

carpediem · 61-69, M

@PEACH4LIFE Grandsons always are. And you're very welcome

MagicaloneANRABF · 56-60, M

Beautiful....warm kind face. You are very attractive

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@MagicaloneANRABF Thank you very much 😊

Justcurious86 · 36-40, M

My heart still skips a beat when I see this pic.

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Justcurious86 Awww, thank you. I'm glad you like it.

SW-User

You are a very beautiful person! It’s hard to see what others do.

BBrendan · 46-50, M

Wow what a fine looking lady!

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@BBrendan Thank you 😊

BBrendan · 46-50, M

@PEACH4LIFE You're welcome my dear :)

OldBrit · 61-69, M

You are extremely beautiful

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@OldBrit Awww thanks my favorite Brit! You're just as handsome!

bartender · 36-40, M

Hottie hottie

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@bartender you're so funny! 😂 Thank you 😊

bartender · 36-40, M

@PEACH4LIFE you do know i am naughty too

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@bartender of course I do!!!!

SissySecrets · 41-45, T

Beauty!

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@SissySecrets Thank you so much!

SissySecrets · 41-45, T

@PEACH4LIFE you’re welcome. Lovely hair, Pretty face and elegant lace.

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@SissySecrets Awww thank you 😊

Banksy83 · 36-40, M

You are a sight for sore eyes Lady

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Banksy83 Thank you!

MrSilkyBunz · 26-30, M

You are truly beautyfull🔥

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@MrSilkyBunz Awww thank you so much! 🤗

Experienced33 · M

So Happy for you!

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Experienced33 Thank you. It's a journey! 😊

LostSoul22

Super sexy!!

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@LostSoul22 Thank you 😊

LostSoul22

@PEACH4LIFE Thank you! Super hot!🥵

Vetman · 46-50, M

You are gorgeous

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Vetman Thank you 😊 🤗

TexasOutlawTrey · M

You are beautiful 🤩

PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@TexasOutlawTrey Thank you 😊

Carissimi · 70-79, F

What does “loving yourself” actually mean? I’ve never understood what one is supposed to do, say, feel. How does it work?

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PEACH4LIFE · 46-50, F

@Carissimi Give it a try. You never know... Wishing you the best!!!

Carissimi · 70-79, F

Thank you. I’ve spent years trying to accept myself as looking old, and I still don’t like it. I have accepted I’ll never get used to it, so I’ve accepted that I’ll never like it. @PEACH4LIFE