I Cant Change the Past But I Can Change My Future

I was beaten often in childhood and adolescence. My mother showed me no emotion from 5 years on and kept me essentially caged till age 18. Father was absent. It's taken a long time to deal with that. I'm now strongly "anti-violence", and I've slowly learned to sense natural, deep emotions in myself. It's taken a long time. I've only recently learned that my mother and my grandfather both come from families where serious domestic violence was commonplace, to the point where they locked up my grandfather for awhile and our family had to take in grandmother for a couple of weeks on several occasions. We must learn to break these painful and vicious cycles of violence in the family by radically inscribing ourselves against all acts of violence. There are much more intelligent ways of dealing with obedience and differences of opinion.

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cool2030 · 41-45, M

To @Silverwings and all the other well-wishers, thank you really very much for your sympathy. All is well now. I have arrived at a much more peaceful existence. Now in retrospect I consider the teachings that still dominate so many families even today, and I shake my head about the ignorance about education methods. I encourage all who are exposed to domestic violence to look seriously for advice online, to discover more intelligent solutions for solving conflicts. I'll just say this: the violence in my family did NOT change me, nor my mother, nor my grandfather into more pliant persons. On the contrary, ALL OF US, as well as my brother, were radicalized and became rebels, which made life much more difficult for all of us. Fortunately, when I came out of my family, I had a couple of friends who saw right through the situation and who took the time to explain things to me. That straightened me out, and eventually I found a much better and richer path towards a life in positive interaction with my environment.